Rewards in waiting for love

PUBLISHED : Tuesday, 17 June, 1997, 12:00am
UPDATED : Tuesday, 17 June, 1997, 12:00am

Should we get involved in romantic relationships during our student years? Some say no because school work is so important that love between youths should wait until after Form Seven. Others say yes, believing a healthy romantic relationship between two young people can be of great benefit to both.

I want to relate to you an example about Jerry and Cherry. They were lovers, with 14- year-old Cherry in Form Three and 18-year-old Jerry in Form 6. It was love at first sight.

They would watch films or go shopping. Then they began cuddling and kissing in parks. Weeks later, they had sex and this ultimately resulted in Cherry becoming an under-aged mother. Jerry was charged and sent to prison.

This story illustrates the fact that the puppy love phase can be short. Teenagers often are so ignorant they do things which badly affect their lives.

Youths must be careful a partner does not string them along to get 'benefits'.

Here is another example, concerning a couple known as Janice and Deluin. They were both aged 14 and studying in Form Three.

They started hanging around together, helping each other with academic problems. They went shopping together and to the movies. Their relationship continued until they finished Form Seven and they decided to get married. Two years later, they had baby boy.

This second example shows that a healthy relationship will not have a negative influence on one's studies. It can benefit both girl and boy and allow them to share everything and help each other through hard times.

Generally speaking, we should remember to look before we leap. Choose a healthy romantic relationship. Do everything carefully and restrain your desires.

Lai-shan is a pupil of Lam Woo Memorial Secondary School