Tradition beats computer love

PUBLISHED : Sunday, 20 December, 1998, 12:00am
UPDATED : Sunday, 20 December, 1998, 12:00am

Nowadays computer dating is very popular. Although you may be ugly, bad-tempered . . . if you can write a good composition, then you can easily find one or more boyfriends or girlfriends.

But will that last long? And what is the difference between it and the traditional way of dating? Personally, I prefer the old- fashioned way of dating, which is to know the person first, then become friends, then close friends . . . step by step.

But with computer dating you may not know their outlook or background. Even if they tell you, are you sure it's the truth? Once you regard that person as your boyfriend and then discover he is not suitable for you, what can you do? I'm sure computer dating will not be more stable than the old-fashioned kind.

Humans are fickle. If your boyfriend can know you through the Internet, why can't he know others through it? Computer-dating couples usually link their relationship through words such as: 'Honey, darling, I miss you . . .' Everyone can say those words, but with computers you can't make sure they speak from their hearts.

In the newspapers there are often stories about people getting boyfriends or girlfriends through the Net in order to cheat them out of their money or assault them.

Traditional dating has many advantages.

The first one is that you can understand more about your partner and have more time to consider whether he or she is suitable.

Love is something that happens when two people meet and fall in love. Computer dating has lost the meaning of love.

I'm sure the old-fashioned way of dating is more acceptable than other methods and more stable. Just look at your parents, did they meet through computers? Love is not a game. Think carefully before you do anything.

Iris is a student of St Rose of Lima's School