Counselling needed

PUBLISHED : Sunday, 06 June, 1993, 12:00am
UPDATED : Sunday, 06 June, 1993, 12:00am

I AM writing in response to the article ''Honey I 'shrunk' the amah'' (Sunday Morning Post, May 30). I was disappointed by the irresponsible reporting of this piece.

I was surprised that you would work to contribute to the negative perception of counselling and ignore the need for awareness to child/family services. Those of us working with children and their families all want to contribute to the well-being of our community, and by making references such as children ''spending several sessions on the couch'', being ''maladjusted'' and ''neglected'', you only mock counselling and deter parents and children from seeking assistance when they need it.

As many parents know, amahs can bring so much into your household and your family. That's what the basis of developing these groups is about, helping amahs and parents communicate and work together for the benefit of the children and the family, to teachskills that are similar to those addressed in the parenting skills groups we also offer.

The amah groups are by no means a way to relieve parents of their parental responsibilities, but to increase the total level of care in the home.

Amahs are not meant to replace parents, but to assist in the caretaking of the children and household. These groups stress that role and, hopefully, make parents and amahs more aware of when these lines are sometimes crossed.

Hongkong is a unique place to raise your family, and just like any other there are pros and cons. Just as there are positives and negatives to being a Third Culture Kid. What is important is parents being aware of what is happening in their children's lives and knowing that there are services out there that can offer help and information with their concerns. DAVID K. HAINES M.A. Central