It's about determination

PUBLISHED : Saturday, 09 September, 2006, 12:00am
UPDATED : Saturday, 09 September, 2006, 12:00am

I have been working in my father's company in the textile business for five years now. I am a graduate with a diploma in economics and finance and I would like to work in the finance sector, but I do not have the necessary experience. I have just turned 30 and I am worried that I may not be able to get a decent job, or get employed as a newcomer. I am quite confused. Please advise me.


IT HAS NOTHING to do with how old you are now, but how determined you are. You have to ask yourself what your interpretation of a 'decent' job is.

You have been under your father's wing for too long, and consequently you have lost confidence in your capabilities.

Imagine wild animals kept in a zoo - they gradually lose their hunting skills. Do you feel sorry for them seeing them locked up? Or do you feel grateful they do not have to risk their lives to hunt for food?

You have to ask yourself these questions. Why did you begin working at your father's company after graduation? Were you obliged to? Have you discussed with your father (or both of your parents) about how you feel and what you think?

It is more than just a 'shall I go or shall I stay' issue. It is a family issue, too. It might be painful, but not harmful, to first seek their opinion and advice.

I see you are a university graduate with five years of work experience in the textile industry. What precisely are your duties at present? Have you been doing anything finance-related that you could use to your advantage when job hunting?

You have to put your thoughts into action, otherwise you will be just daydreaming.

For some reason there is always a crisis at work. We are 'late' with everything - so we are told. We are given short notice to complete projects, which means we have to stay late in the office. We rush into projects without proper planning and my boss keeps changing her instructions. My team is fed up. What do you think we should do?


Believe me, I understand fully what you are talking about and how frustrating and depressing it can be working for a boss like that.

But you should know that you are a survivor to have weathered so many crises and still work as a team.

Even if your team is always 'late', at least you know the outcome is always satisfactory. If not, you and your team would be out by now.

In today's business world, there is no mercy. We all know that there are things in life we cannot change.

Learn to look at things from different perspectives. It is all about communication.

When you say your boss keeps changing her instructions in the middle of a project, remember that it happens to many of us, too.

When some great idea comes to my mind, I cannot help but want to put it in my proposals / projects, no matter how late or close to the deadline.

Sometimes, when I am proof-reading documents, I discover important points that are missed or overlooked, and even grammatical mistakes that require immediate correction.

Yes, it is painful and stressful, but it is our drive for excellence that keeps us going, growing and achieving.

I would rather spot the problems and mistakes myself than be picked upon on by others - or worse still - my clients and competitors.

You have to ask yourself why you are still there. Have you looked for another job? Is the salary good?

Whatever your answer or reason, until the day you quit, you are still one of the team, and therefore have to give your best.

Even if you see it as a losing battle, you still have to stand up and fight, not for anyone else, but yourself.

You have to be able to control your negative feelings and emotions.

As the saying goes: 'No pain, no gain'.