Violence creates fear and resentment, not respect

PUBLISHED : Thursday, 02 August, 2007, 12:00am
UPDATED : Thursday, 02 August, 2007, 12:00am

Some parents smack their children if they get poor academic results or lie to others. I don't recommend this kind of punishment because it is bad for children.


First, using physical punishment could affect the development of their personality and ruin their childhood. Second, they may follow their parents and solve problems by using violence. Third, corporal punishment can harm children, both mentally and physically.


Teachers and parents should deal with children in a gentle manner and send the right message to them. Using physical punishment will only cause more resentment among children.


ALICE NG SHUK-MEI


Leung Shek Chee College


Thanks for your letter, Alice. I totally agree with you: whatever the situation, violence is never the answer.


When someone resorts to violence - whether it's a parent hitting their child, or an angry manager turning on his charge - it means that they've lost control. As such no good can come from it.


Children whose parents hit them don't respect them, they fear them. Although superficially respect and fear may appear similar, they are poles apart.


The parent who can sit and talk to their calmly to their child when they've done something naughty is a parent who will be listened to. And respected.


Kate, Editor