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PUBLISHED : Wednesday, 12 March, 2008, 12:00am
UPDATED : Wednesday, 12 March, 2008, 12:00am
 

Never give up

Many people don't think that the world is fair. But I wonder if they have reflected on why they may not be succeeding.

A lot depends on our own attitude. I believe success comes to those who have tried their best to do everything they possibly can, even though they may face difficulties.

In contrast, some people just evade the obstacles they don't want to face. This is useless because reality won't go away. And that is the point - successful people attempt to solve problems and end up learning more valuable things because of it.

The most common reason people choose to evade problems is fear of failure. People feel fear because they are afraid they will lose or they have no confidence in themselves.

But how can you know if you will or won't be successful without stepping out?

Good opportunities are precious and won't wait, so we should grab these opportunities whenever they present themselves.

A motto I try to remember and live by is: Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game!

Christy Lee, Tak Nga Secondary School

Take responsibility for the weather

The cold weather in Hong Kong lasted throughout the Lunar New Year holiday this year. It was the second-longest cold spell in Hong Kong's history.

People may enjoy the festive atmosphere of such cold weather, but how does the abnormal long lasting cold weather affect our life?

The cold weather led to the financial losses for farmers as crops died and some old and weak people suffering from severe colds and flu.

In such times of trouble, we should reach out to the suffering. We can phone or visit the sick. We should support local farmers even though their produce may not look as appetising as imported goods.

We should also take action to protect our planet so that such extreme weather conditions are avoided. Use less electricity, recycle anything you can and use environmentally friendly products.

We are all responsible for a healthy Earth.

Yeung Wing-yee, Ju Ching Chu Secondary School

A fresh approach to admiring idols

Do you have a favourite singer or movie star? What makes your idol your favourite?

Many teenagers have idols. A lot of them choose them because of their appearance. But this is not a good reason to admire someone. It can give you false expectations of the world.

I have a favourite band. When I am tired, I relax by listening to their music. If your idol is an actor, watching his films can cheer you up.

Having an idol or favourite group can help you make friends. You can join a fan club or a chat room and meet other people who share your idol.

But my idol used to be an actor. I used to spend all my pocket money on buying his movies and photos, and spend all my time researching news about him on the internet.

If you spend so much time and money on your idol, you won't have much time for anything else like study, family and friends.

What's more, if spend too much time thinking about your idol, you may start forming unrealistic dreams.

For example, I once liked the handsome vocalist of a rock band and dreamed I could be his girlfriend. I used to think of ways that I could meet him and make him fall in love with me. Now I realise how foolish I was.

I have liked one of my favourite bands for nearly three years. I like them because they play cool music. I also discovered that they support Oxfam and write anti-war songs.

I realise that I don't just like them because they are handsome.

It is normal to have an idol. But we have to be smart. Don't waste time and money pursuing them, and don't let yourself believe in unrealistic dreams.

Yoanna Hui, St Bonaventure College & High School

Love still has a place in modern times

I am writing in response to the article 'Impressions of romance' ( Young Post, March 6). I would like to express my opinions on love.

In reality, love is cruel. A couple may fall in love and everything is wonderful. But if one partner cheats on the other, the relationship will never be the same.

Relationships which last a lifetime are based on honesty and caring.

But director Patrick Kong suggests that love is like war.

He says that secrecy is a way of maintaining a relationship.

He also adds that his recent romance trilogy is a realistic reflection of modern relationships. He bases his stories on friends or real-life stories.

Kong says that relationships are more fragile today than in the past, and that people fall in and out of love more quickly.

But I disagree with this attitude.

According to traditional Chinese culture, a marriage should comprise love and respect.

If a man falls in love with a woman who is not his wife, it is unfair for him to cheat on his wife.

The wife has the right to know what is going on and to decide how to settle the problem.

If people truly love each other, they will work through their problems.

Love is a complex emotion. There are no rules governing how love works. There are no absolute rights or wrongs, and love is different for everyone.

But I think everyone ought to be honest to order to gain their partner's trust.

Without trust, there is no way to maintain the sort of long and comfortable relationship Kong seems to think can no longer exist.

Connie Cheng, Leung Shek Chee College

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