Don't dwell on the past
I think it's important not to look back and to keep moving forward.
If we are always reviewing what happened in the past, we are not living in the present or preparing for what lies ahead of us. The past may have given you some deep, painful wounds, but all wounds heal with the passing of time.
What's more, not living in the present will probably give you more grounds for regret in the future. It will result in missed opportunities and perhaps yet more wounds like the ones you were thinking of when you dwelled on the past.
Try to put any past unhappiness behind you and stand up and fight for a brighter future. Pessimism never did anyone any good. Try to look on the bright side, be positive, and face whatever is ahead of you.
If you have a healthy relationship with the present, you will find that the past won't bother you any longer.
Crystal Chan Yee-lok
From the Editor
Thank you Crystal for your thought-inspiring letter. One of my favourite movies is The Never Ending Story, in which a young hero has to battle against all odds to find a cure for a princess who is ill. In one part he has to take his horse through the 'swamp of sadness' where anyone who is sad will sink in the mud. The horse is unable to shake off its sadness and finally dies in the swamp.
It is a sad part of the movie but one with a very strong lesson. Being pessimistic can keep our lives bogged down in the past. That can harm us because we become afraid of seizing new opportunities and we miss out. No one can change the past; we can only change how we feel about it. Once we know that, we can go forward and not look back.