Anger management can be learned

PUBLISHED : Wednesday, 26 November, 2008, 12:00am
UPDATED : Wednesday, 26 November, 2008, 12:00am

We usually get angry when things aren't the way we want them to be.

Day-to-day life presents us with many situations that can make us angry.

Our friends and family might not do what we want. We might wake up and realise there is nothing to eat for breakfast. We might miss our bus, or need to meet someone we don't like, or someone might criticise us.

But anger is the most negative reaction, and should be avoided as much as possible. Perhaps we cannot avoid all the situations that cause anger, but with some effort we can control and change our reactions.

We need to be aware of the situations that lead to anger. We can control our automatic angry response, but it takes effort. When you feel you are getting angry, try to remember a happy moment from the past and calm yourself down.

Amina Bibi, California School

From the Editor

Thank you for your letter, Amina. Anger is a very dangerous emotion. Not only might we physically and emotionally hurt other people when we are angry, we damage ourselves, too.

Anger makes us tense and increases our blood pressure. In extreme cases, raised blood pressure can lead to heart failure.

There are always alternative reactions to situations.

If someone says or does something that angers you, first try to see things from their point of view. However, if they are unreasonable, or totally in the wrong, it is best just to walk away. Unreasonable people will not come round to a common sense point of view. Trying to reason with them is often a waste of time and energy.

When you feel anger bubbling up inside you, take a deep breath and count to 10. And let the feelings go. Holding on to anger is unhealthy, so learn to control your reactions, and live a happier, calmer life.

Karly, Sub-editor