Apology can work like magic

PUBLISHED : Monday, 29 November, 2010, 12:00am
UPDATED : Monday, 29 November, 2010, 12:00am

'Sorry' is one of those magic words which can solve a lot of problems. During an argument, for example, people get upset and may say something that they'll regret later. When this happens, it is good to say 'sorry' irrespective of whether you are right or wrong, and become friends again.

I've always wondered why some people don't like to apologise to others, especially parents, who don't say 'sorry' to their children when they have done something wrong. Saying that magic word isn't as hard as you think. It is a quick and easy way to mend a relationship.

You could say 'sorry' when someone is angry at you, and then explain your point of view to them. We should all cultivate that magic touch - it's a skill that will stand you in good stead.

Karena Chow, Tsuen Wan Public Ho Chuen Yiu Memorial College

From the Editor

Thank you for your letter, Karena. Although there is a saying 'actions speak louder than words', language is incredibly powerful.

When you have done something wrong, rather than just acting defensively, it is far better to apologise. If you have said or done something that has hurt another person, saying 'sorry' can ease the pain.

But remember that 'sorry' only carries power if you use it wisely. You should only say it if you really mean it. If you say it just to end an argument, it's likely that argument will re-emerge another time.

Whenever you are in a situation when you think maybe you are in the wrong, take a moment to think. If you don't think you are to blame, ask for understanding, and explain your view. But if you realise that something is your fault, say 'sorry', and say it from the bottom of your/ heart. It can heal all sorts of rifts.

Karly, Deputy Editor