Relationship skills should be taught

PUBLISHED : Saturday, 09 July, 2011, 12:00am
UPDATED : Saturday, 09 July, 2011, 12:00am


Teenagers in Hong Kong may daydream about getting married one day. Yet few of them consider the fact that many marriages end in divorce.

More and more young couples decide to part ways over relatively trivial matters. I believe the problem lies in a lack of education about marital problems and how to resolve them.

It is high time that schools began teaching students about the importance of marriage. The more information adolescents absorb now, the less likely they will be to make hasty decisions later. Divorce is not uncommon in Hong Kong, so the younger generation should learn how to evaluate matters before they take the leap.

Building and sustaining a relationship is not easy. Teachers and parents should share their experiences with youngsters who will benefit from the process.

Carmen Cheng Ka-man, Pooi To Middle School

From the Editor

Thank you for your letter, Carmen. Any relationship, whether it's romantic, or between friends, family members or colleagues, needs work. If you don't make an effort, you start to take other people for granted. And this can often lead to problems.

Two of the most important ingredients in a successful relationship are respect and communication. If you don't respect the other person, you will not value their feelings or opinions, which can lead to resentment. And if you do not communicate, it is all too easy for there to be misunderstandings, and unnecessary anger.

But even when you are respectful and communicative, not every relationship is meant to last. Sometimes, people are just not meant to be connected - whether husband and wife, business partners, or friends. Of course, it is very sad when this happens. But if you respect each other, at least any parting of ways can be relatively painless. And you can apply the lessons you learned from the breakdown to other relationships.

Karly, Deputy Editor