One is not always the loneliest number

PUBLISHED : Monday, 10 October, 2011, 12:00am
UPDATED : Monday, 10 October, 2011, 12:00am


Is the idea of being single in future a disaster to you? Are you worried you won't find a husband? In Hong Kong, many single women use speed-dating to try to find partners.

However, I think single women can still have enlightening and enriching lives. Firstly, they will have more freedom to do whatever they like. They don't need to report what they are doing to anyone. They won't be stressed and can enjoy their lives freely - they don't need to consider what their husband or boyfriend thinks.

After marriage, many women will need to take care of their family and children; they will also have to work. So they won't have time to relax or go to friends' gatherings. Little by little, their work and family responsibilities will become the only things that exist in their world.

Finally, if you are afraid of being single and get married without thinking deeply, there's a chance that you will end up divorced. Thus, why don't you try to lead a happy, fruitful life as a single woman?

Eunice Ma Wai-wa, Pooi To Middle School

From the Editor

Thank you for your letter, Eunice. In the past, all a woman could hope for was to marry a nice man and have children. Now this is not to say the idea is wrong, or someone who wants that is settling for 'less', but today women have an array of choices.

It seems that finding the right man and settling down is not as easy as it used to be. This is because people are less likely to stay in a relationship where they are unhappy. Often when a relationship is in trouble, the couple will split. The arguments for and against this will make for an interesting discussion.

Is the single lifestyle rewarding or selfish? Is the idea of a family unit becoming redundant? What are the pros and cons of this? Let's hear what other readers think.

Susan, Editor