Stigma? What stigma? Why behavioural counselling is a step in the right direction

My son's school has advised me to give permission for him to see a counsellor to help with his social problems. I am aware that he has some difficulties, but a counsellor sounds serious.

We all appreciate that the development of social skills is vital for children. And teachers instinctively understand that their students' ability to interact positively and co-operatively with their peers is a crucial precondition for being part of an active, lively school community.

Under normal circumstances, a teacher's input can be as simple as keeping students on task or being aware of potential disputes or personality clashes. However, there are occasions when things become more serious than that, and it is at this point that other professionals, such as line managers or senior personnel, become involved. This may lead to a referral to an out-of-school professional when appropriate.

Although you are not specific about your son's situation, it is important for parents to realise that it is not just disruptive behaviour that triggers schools' concerns about the success or otherwise of social interaction. Sensitive and experienced teachers also recognise that a student who is quiet or withdrawn could be masking problems in his or her capacity to relate to others.

Although most teachers are not qualified counsellors, they generally do an excellent job observing and monitoring students' behavioural patterns. It is rare for them to miss something that might lead to more complex issues.

Parents should keep the school informed of anything at home that might affect their child's behaviour or state of mind.