Parents' rows can hurt kids

PUBLISHED : Friday, 06 April, 2012, 12:00am
UPDATED : Friday, 06 April, 2012, 12:00am

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I don't think parents should argue in front of their children. Two weeks ago, my classmate told me that her parents had a row in front of her and it scared her. She said she was worried about her family.

Instead of arguing, parents should try to strike a compromise to solve a problem. They should be role models, showing children how to cope with problems in their daily lives. Arguments could cause the children to worry that their parents might separate. It could also affect their development and lead to psychological problems.

If they can't discuss problems rationally, parents should think of the effect their actions might have on their children, and try their best to stay calm.

Divina Tang, Pooi To Middle School

From the Editor

Thank you for your letter, Divina. Many children will have seen their parents arguing. It's natural to worry, as you wonder if your parents have stopped loving each other, or even if they're going to divorce.

It's important to remember that, while we expect them to be the calm, sensible ones, adults are only human. Everyone has disagreements, especially with the people they love. We all get stressed, tired and fed up then yell, cry or say things we don't mean. Mostly, once the argument is over, people - parents included - apologise and make up.

If you don't feel that their argument has been resolved - and they keep fighting - and the situation is upsetting you, it's important to talk to one or both of your parents. They may not have realised how it's affecting you. If you can't talk to them, talk to another adult you can trust: a relative, a teacher or school counsellor.

If the argument ever gets physical or involves threats, it's vital that you tell someone - again, a relative, a teacher or school counsellor.

Finally, always remember, their arguments are not your fault.

Karly, Deputy Editor