My Take

Why fuss about the sexuality of others?

PUBLISHED : Saturday, 24 May, 2014, 3:10am
UPDATED : Saturday, 24 May, 2014, 3:10am

I am not gay and I don't know many gay people. But they don't bother me, so why should I bother them?

Let me correct myself. I probably know and work with gay people. It's just that they don't bother to tell me their sexual orientation and I have no interest in knowing. We define people by different attributes such as their looks, race, family background, religion and/or where they went to school. But sexuality seems to me one of the least interesting, except of those you might happen to have a romantic interest in.

That's why I don't understand people like Leticia Lee See-yin of the Justice Alliance. The group has made a big fuss about the Boys' and Girls' Clubs Association for planning to take part in a pro-gay rights event next month. It's also upset that the association offers a counselling service to confused young people to help them accept their sexuality.

They are joined by a prominent Chinese University professor who has also rounded on the association for supposedly saying gay people are born that way.

As far as I know, the association and the Family Planning Association don't drag kids into their offices to convert them to homosexuality or tell them to become gay. They merely help them adjust to and accept their sexuality. That's what counselling is all about. So what if they take public money as part of their funding?

On the other hand, there are plenty of religious groups who actively try to convert confused gay people to heterosexuality - to straighten them out. That seems to me far more problematic, not to mention immoral.

At heart is their belief that being gay is a personal choice, not something you are born into. But that seems counterintuitive at the very least. I never chose heterosexuality. I really believe I was just born that way. So I have no trouble believing gay people - and scientists who study sexuality who say - that gays are born, not made. What the anti-gay people say amounts to arguing that a gay person is really born to be attracted to people of the opposite sex, yet makes a perverse choice to sleep with or attach to people of his/her own sex. That doesn't seem likely.

I have never liked Lady Gaga but when she sings "Born this way", I have to agree with her.