The CIA interrogation tactics every couple can use at home

Former spook Philip Houston has written a book about how to use spy agency techniques to get your nearest and dearest to come clean about stuff - though he's not suggesting you treat them as national security threats.

PUBLISHED : Monday, 17 August, 2015, 10:00pm
UPDATED : Wednesday, 19 August, 2015, 10:32pm
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Former CIA interrogator Philip Houston tells the story of a colleague who arrived at the airport for a much-needed holiday, only to discover that check-in wanted paper tickets.

The man turned to his wife, who had handled the flight arrangements: "Do you know anything about paper tickets?"

"You know, I'm really not sure," she said.

Rather than challenging that statement directly, the man deployed several of Houston's favourite techniques for coaxing confessions out of spies and miscreants: rationalising the suspect's actions, minimising the consequences and deflecting blame. "This is my fault. I know I was rushing you - and this whole week has been crazy," the man told his wife. "But if you think there might have been paper tickets, let me know that and we'll work it out."

"I think I left them on the bedside table," his wife said.

Houston, author of the new book, Get the Truth: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Persuade Anyone to Tell All (St. Martin's Press), isn't suggesting that you treat your nearest and dearest like threats to national security. But he suggests that a modified version of the approach he honed at the CIA can be highly effective.

"The delivery's got to be really, really toned down," says Houston. "It's almost like you're putting yourself in someone else's shoes."

Houston, who has conducted thousands of interviews and interrogations for the CIA and other federal agencies, would typically start those interactions with an interview. If disturbing signs surfaced (a trusted foreign asset might hesitate when asked if he had worked for another government), Houston would use what he calls a transition statement to voice his concern in a calm, reasonable way: "Dave, there's clearly something you're not telling me, and we need to talk about that."

Then, rather than asking more questions, Houston would swing into monologue mode, talking sympathetically.

The monologue encourages cooperation by rationalising the action ("genuinely good people sometimes get in over their heads"), projecting blame ("maybe your Russian friends took advantage of you"), minimising the seriousness of the crime, pointing out that others have been in the same situation and emphasising the truth ("we have to get everything on the table, so we know what we're dealing with").

Aspects of this method can be used in many personal situations, Houston says.

If, for example, you suspect a significant other of infidelity, you might try a heartfelt transition statement: "Amy, I care about you a great deal, but I have to tell you, I'm worried about our relationship, and we should talk about that. What I worry about most is that you've decided to move in a different direction."

Then you switch to monologue mode, saying that you know you haven't been the greatest partner lately and admitting you've been preoccupied with work.

The monologue leads up to a presumptive question, one that presumes that at least part of your suspicion is true. You might ask a suspected philanderer: "How long has this been going on?" If they resist, you go back to your monologue and work up to another presumptive question.

In the case of the couple at the airport, Houston says that, because the wife came clean, they were able to send a friend to retrieve the tickets, and they made their flight. After settling into their seats, the wife thanked the husband for being so understanding and went on to make a full confession: "I can't believe I forgot the tickets."

Houston's tips for getting loved ones to come clean

Engage the subject: put down your cellphone, avoid interruptions and give the subject your full attention.

Use neutral language: don't ask your little darling if she "stole" the biscuits from the jar; ask if she "took" the biscuits.

Lower your voice: yelling only creates resistance. A calmer, quieter voice encourages a confession.

Tribune News Service