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  • Dec 20, 2014
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Not to be ignored, Chinese mum buys full-page ad to get son to come home for New Year

After forcing marriage scared off son from coming home for the holidays from Australia, mum resorts to creative tactics

PUBLISHED : Thursday, 16 January, 2014, 5:36pm
UPDATED : Friday, 17 January, 2014, 6:28pm

A mainland mother has gone to great lengths to get her son to come home for Lunar New Year. The mother published a letter on the front page of a newspaper in Melbourne, in which she begged her son to come home for the occasion after her repeated attempts to force him into marriage had scared him away.

“I’ve called you many times, but you don’t answer. Maybe you will see this,” she wrote to her son Peng.

“Your mother and father won’t force you to marry again. Come home for Chinese New Year!”

The Ta Kung Pao newspaper reported that the mother lived in Guangzhou and Peng was working in Australia, where he graduated.

His family had repeatedly tried to get him to return to China to find and marry girlfriend, so he stopped answering their calls.

Not knowing what else to do, they bought a full-page ad on the in the most widely read Chinese newspaper in the city where he lives. The mother wants to remain anonymous.

The Chinese Melbourne Daily (right) has a circulation of 18,000 and, according to the newspaper’s rate card, a full-colour, full-page ad on the front page costs A$3,915.52 (HK$26,800) on a weekday.

Chinese children, especially girls, are under enormous pressure to bring home a potential mate during the Lunar New Year. Some will even rent a boyfriend for a day to get their parents off their back.

Boyfriends can be rented on Taobao at an hourly or daily rate, offering services such as chatting, shopping and going to the cinema.

One reviewer said she found her little sister a fake boyfriend on Taobao to buy time from her overbearing family after she broke up with her boyfriend. Another said her parents were happy with her fake boyfriend’s good manners.

Some Weibo users sympathised with Peng’s predicament, especially singles facing their own parents on Lunar New Year, which falls on January 31.

Many speculated he was gay and had eloped with his boyfriend. One user wrote, “Isn’t this even more pressure? Forced to marry, now forced to go home.”

Another wrote, “This is a princeling and it’s very likely he’s gay.”

Others were less forgiving. “Not marrying is an act of extreme selfishness. What use is this kind of son?” one user wrote. 

Another commented: “Cut off his money, then he’ll come back soon enough.”


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lol. seen this type of scenarios dozens of times over.
gay sons telling mom they're "too busy" or "haven't met the right girl".
a few of my own friends use that excuse and they're in their 30s/40s.
i don't know which is worse: lame excuses, or the fact that mom isn't savvy enough to know son is gay.
This unwanted publicity makes it worse for the son, and might make it impossible to reconcile, particularly if his friends saw the advertisement, which they will now. Fortunately, since he is working, he wouldn't be blackmailed into carrying out his parents' wishes.


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