• Tue
  • Dec 23, 2014
  • Updated: 11:16am
NewsHong Kong

Frustrated Hong Kong women head to mainland China in search of love

Unhappy with 'limited options' at home, more of the city's singles are turning to matchmaking events over the border to find a life partner

PUBLISHED : Monday, 11 November, 2013, 12:00am
UPDATED : Monday, 11 November, 2013, 11:44am

Fiona Lee slipped on a pair of high heels and left her home in Tai Wai in Hong Kong's New Territories yesterday morning and headed for the border, despite the weather forecast for wind and rain.

Aged 28, the office worker was going to the Guanyin Mountain Forest Park in Dongguan, where she would mingle with thousands of single men at a matchmaking event the city was hosting as part of the mainland's annual "singles' day".

Lee was joined by more than 100 other Hongkongers who are using such events, along with dating sites, to find a mainland husband, after deciding the pool at home was too limited.

"Hong Kong is too small to find a perfect husband," Lee said. She preferred single men from leading cities in Guangdong, in their late 20s to late 30s, who are "thoughtful and responsible".

"It will be great if they are professional or entrepreneurs. This kind of single man is hard to encounter in Hong Kong," she said.

Despite the predicted downpour, thousands of other single people turned out for the event in the mountain park after at least 6,000 filed applications online to attend. The event, which is in its third year, attracted 20,000 people from several cities in the delta, like Guangzhou, Shenzhen and Dongguan.

Another Hong Kong woman who travelled to Dongguan was drawn by the size of the event.

"It's my first time to attend such a mass matchmaking event. In Hong Kong, you might only meet eight men at a dating dinner party. Here you can talk with dozens," said Sally Jyun, who works in Sheung Shui.

The city's women are also turning to mainland dating and matchmaking websites in greater numbers, according to Kam Lau, the founder of the Shenzhen-based King Phoenix, a dating agency that counts half a million members on both sides of the border. "There are about 30,000 Hong Kong singles registered on my website. Two-thirds of them are male, and the rest are female," she said.

"Five years ago, only single Hong Kong women in their late 30s or 40s would even think of going north to look for a husband. But it has changed sharply in the past two or three years."

About a third of the women members from the website were aged between 25 and 35, Lau said. "Since the start of the year, more than 1,000 Hong Kong women have registered on my website, and many of them are urbane, young and well-educated."

Lau said that the city's young women were joining a range of dating activities organised in Guangdong. "They often come in a group of three or four and go straight back to Hong Kong after the event," she said.

Many had been following or at least knew about the matchmaking shows that were hugely popular on the mainland, such as If You Are the One and Run For Love, which have attracted hundreds of millions of viewers.

"Many of my Hong Kong female members told me they love watching these kinds of TV reality shows and see that many of the contestants on the shows are charming, educated and young with decent jobs," Lau said.

"These shows and the dating websites have inspired Hong Kong women to go north. However, Hong Kong single men are losing their appeal in the eyes of mainland women."

The mainland is reported to have roughly 180 million single people aged between 18 and 35. Revenue from the online dating market topped 1.2 billion yuan (HK$1.5 billion) and is forecast to reach two billion yuan by 2014.


For unlimited access to:

SCMP.com SCMP Tablet Edition SCMP Mobile Edition 10-year news archive



This article is now closed to comments

Women always says that the good men are all taken, what they truly mean is all the good men who have high paying jobs, educated, will pamper you in luxury are taken or hard to find. The waiter serving you at a cafe could be a perfectly good man who will treat you with respect and like a princess, but obviously that just isn't good enough.
""It will be great if they are professional or entrepreneurs. This kind of single man is hard to encounter in Hong Kong," she said." Yes, because obviously money is important in this vain society right? What the same women fail to explain is what they can offer for men like these to want them.
Men in HK can’t find women who’s willing to marry and have kids. So, they turn to the mainland.
Women in HK can’t find suitable men to marry because they’re looking for professionals or entrepreneurs. So, they turn to the mainland.
This is just disturbing.
Is there anything in this part of the world which is NOT about money?
because men in HK are in bromance nowadays HAHA funny but this is our world, we enjoy toning our muscles and worship other men as well HAHA i just love being out and gay HAHA
the sooner HK ladies accepts what most HK men "ticked" as top & most valued qualities in a wife.......(never about her earning or high power job) then the sooner everyone can get back to bed..........
I just re-read the article. Nowhere does it say the women were looking for wealth. Are our readers biased about their expectations, I wonder?
Is there any HK woman with any type of education who is not money hungry when looking for a husband ? Its just that all the rich HK men have found not only wives but mistresses and this leaves the HK women out of the running on all levels. Thus they are looking for mainland men with money and success, which is after all, better than a HK man with little money, I guess, at least in their thinking ? Maybe they should look in the mirror and ask themselves how they can be more competitive and more appealing ? Could it possibly be that they need to improve themselves or their attitude ?
Gold diggers of 2013. They want to be spoiled and then turn into domestic tyrants.
HK women are leaving the city in search for a rich men in in the mainland or abroad. Love doesn't excist anymore only the love for money and good looking men excist now.
In 'your' part of the world, old wealthy men have 'trophy wives' who follow them for their money too.



SCMP.com Account