Cathy Tsang-Feign

When a marriage fails, don't expect children to divorce their parents

'It's bad enough that my ex-wife destroyed my life. Now she's trying to damage my daughter,' Henry says. 'If I need to fight her in court again to protect Amelia, nothing will stop me.'

Sunday, 16 October, 2011, 12:00am

Parents' grief over the loss of a baby can also affect other siblings

'I'm going crazy. We just lost our six-month-old baby to cot death. My wife is devastated and can't get out of bed. My five-year-old son's school is complaining about him constantly stirring up trouble.'

Although Tim is a busy executive, he took leave from work to look after his wife and son after the terrible event of losing their second child three weeks ago.

11 Sep 2011 - 12:00am

Parents and young children both need to learn the rules of behaviour

'I offered an ice cream to Lily, my three-year-old daughter, as an incentive for good behaviour. I was hoping we could finish shopping in peace. But even after the ice cream, Lily threw a tantrum and insisted on going home,' Amy says with exasperation. 'I told her it was not nice of her and that she had to learn to be less selfish. All she did was stare at me blankly.

14 Aug 2011 - 12:00am

Learning to deny a deeply ingrained need to say yes

Ann, a charming 28-year-old architect, prides herself on being friendly and accommodating, and has many friends. 'I always enjoy helping friends,' she says. 'Helping others makes me feel better about myself.'

17 Jul 2011 - 12:00am

When a mother's personal issues are projected onto her child

'I feel like a failure as a mother,' Janice cries. 'My son, Jonathan, is so unsure of himself. He worries about everything!'

Janice is a devoted mother who quit her career to raise her son, now nine years old. She drives him to school, helps out in his classroom, takes him to clarinet practice and helps with his homework every evening.

5 Jun 2011 - 12:00am

A fiend in need

When it comes to female friendships, finding a good balance is vital, psychologists say. But what about the female friendship that suddenly turns sour?

Call it unhealthy female competition, moments of envy, or just spending too much time with one person, the female relationship can become complicated. And when it does, it can also turn destructive.

28 Jul 2007 - 12:00am

A battle of wills

A FOUR-YEAR-OLD child screams and whines for 40 minutes because he wanted his egg fried not boiled. A three-year-old refuses to brush her teeth, have a bath, or go to bed when asked, coaxed or screamed at.

An eight-year-old makes pertinent but persistent excuses for not tidying up her room, and no amount of cajoling will change her mind.

13 Jun 1995 - 12:00am

Adjusting to stage fright of expatriate lifestyle

MELANIE, a business executive from London, arrived in Hong Kong three months ago to head her company's office. She came with enthusiasm and likes her work, but she has been agitated since she arrived.

12 Sep 1993 - 12:00am

How to beat expat blues

SELF HELP FOR FOREIGNERS By Cathy Tsang-Feign (Asia 2000, $98) HERE are all your insecurities, frustrations and excuses in print. In an easy-to-read, jargon-free book Cathy Tsang-Feign, a Hong Kong-based psychotherapist and columnist for the Sunday Morning Post, helps confront problems unique to the expatriate experience.

21 Aug 1993 - 12:00am

Why sex abuse can leave lifelong scars

JILL put it bluntly: ''I don't think I've ever experienced a meaningful relationship in my life. Men who claim to care about me are really only after one thing - sex.'' Jill, in her late 20s, has gone through a lot: numerous relationships, moving from one country to another, drugs and alcohol. Nothing seems to make her happy.

15 Aug 1993 - 12:00am

How an affair can lead to more pain

MY FRIEND said having an affair may in fact help my marriage.'' Jacky has felt unhappy in her marriage for the past five years. For various reasons she thinks nothing can be done to improve the situation. She feels stuck with her emptiness and pain.

18 Jul 1993 - 12:00am

When a little passion goes out of your life

HARRY is disappointed. ''I thought our sex life would be back to normal. After all, we seem to get along fine now.'' June and Harry have been through a bad patch in their marriage. They both agree that over the past few months they have made much improvement. However, the issue of sex remains a source of irritation.

4 Jul 1993 - 12:00am

Going home to a pile of problems

AFTER nine years in Asia, Philip feels it is time to return to Britain. Recently his company offered to transfer him back to the London office. But he is facing a quandary. ''It's an attractive offer. But at the same time, it feels like a big step down.'' Returning home has pleasant connotations for many expatriates.

20 Jun 1993 - 12:00am

Coping with guilt as a parent is taken ill

AMY wept: ''I can't tell you how guilty I feel leaving my mum back there alone when she needs me the most.'' Amy has been living abroad for the past 15 years with her husband and three children.

Her widowed mother recently developed heart complications. Last year, Amy spent two months in Ireland to take care of her.

6 Jun 1993 - 12:00am