Six steps to keep kids off drugs

Q: MY children are aged eight and 13. Although they are still quite young I worry that they might become involved with drugs and alcohol. I have heard that drug use is increasing in the schools. What can I do to steer them away from drugs? Dr Rose writes: It's never too early to start preparing your children to say no to drugs. Children are beginning to experiment with drugs at an earlier age.

The greatest protection against drugs comes from educating our children to feel good about themselves. Studies show that most people who have problems with drugs and alcohol have low self-esteem. You can play an active role in influencing your children'sself-esteem by following these steps: Talk with your children about alcohol and other drugs. Start by offering simple explanations about what drugs are and their harmful effects. As your children get older they will be subject to increased peer pressure. By discussing this topic with them now you leave the door open for them to approach you with their questions and feelings in the future.

Learn to listen to your children. By learning to listen to your children now, they will be more likely to share concerns about drug use at a later date. Learn how to give verbal and non-verbal clues that show you are listening. Direct eye contact, a smile and a nod all show your children you are paying attention and that you care.

Help your children feel good about themselves. As long as you praise your children's accomplishments and encourage them with your love and understanding they will feel good about themselves. Try not to be over-critical about your children and don't forget to give them lots of positive reinforcement.

Help your children develop a strong sense of values. If your children have the opportunity to discuss with you what is right and wrong it will be easier for them to make correct decisions about drugs and alcohol. They will have the courage to say no whenother children pressure them into experimenting with drugs.

Be a good role model. If you expect your children to steer clear of drugs and alcohol you must demonstrate a responsible attitude towards both to your children. If you are unable to control your own use of alcohol and drugs, now is the time to seek help.

Establish family rules and expectations. Your children should know that you expect them not to use drugs and alcohol. They should be aware of the consequences for using them.