HARRY is disappointed. ''I thought our sex life would be back to normal. After all, we seem to get along fine now.'' June and Harry have been through a bad patch in their marriage. They both agree that over the past few months they have made much improvement. However, the issue of sex remains a source of irritation.
They expected that once the conflicts in their marriage were resolved their sex life would be back to ''normal''.
''Normality'' in this case is being measured by its frequency. They are confused, disappointed, and feeling pressured because the spark of passion did not return instantly.
A wounded relationship is like a wilted plant: even after watering it will drop some leaves before growing and flowering again. A relationship needs a period of rejuvenation before it regains its former bloom. Patience, care and confidence are needed.
A compatible, loving and fulfilling sexual relationship requires trust and acceptance between the two individuals.
This means acceptance of one's sexuality and daring to open up and reveal feelings and vulnerability to the partner during lovemaking. Trust also means knowing one's partner will honour your feelings and that you will not be rejected.