Dr Susan Jamieson, a Scottish-trained family practitioner with 14 years' experience in Hong Kong who specialises in a holistic approach will handle your medical queries. David Bailey, director of St John's Cathedral Counselling Service, has more than 20 years' experience helping individuals, couples and groups. He will be happy to take readers' questions on all types of relationship issues. Bill Connor is director of student services and a psychologist at Hong Kong International School. He welcomes your questions relating to school and education matters. Dear David, Years ago, before I met my husband, I worked as a prostitute. I had stopped working in the sex industry by the time I met him and he does not know about this part of my life. Now he has some new golfing friends and one of them used to be a client of mine. I know he has recognised me and I am terrified he will mention my past to my husband, who would be horrified. I am sick with worry, what can I do? MM Dear MM, There are only two options in this awful situation. One is to risk telling your husband about your past and how you know his friend. Even without a lot of details, this will be enormously difficult for both of you. But you won't have to fear the danger of blackmail or disclosure any longer. The other option is not to tell him and hope that your secret is kept. The risk in using that avenue is also quite considerable - a marriage based on partial truth and horrendous anxiety will likely have many other problems. Whichever option you choose, it is imperative you be strong, self-respecting and positive. Questions you might want to ask yourself include: 'How and why I made the decisions I did about my early life? What helped me to make positive changes to get me where I am today?' Counselling on your own would be helpful to make peace with your past first, before deciding if, how or what to tell your husband. David Every week, the Families page will feature readers' questions answered by our panel of experts.