My boyfriend wants to marry me. I know I should feel happy, but I don't. He is three years older than me and left school two years ago. I am going to take my HKCEE soon and, if I pass, I want to carry on studying. I would love to get a degree and have a good career. That is the only thing we argue about. He thinks studying is a waste of time and I should start working so we can afford a place of our own and start a family. I don't want to break his heart. What should I do?
Not ready yet
write@ttitude says: Marriage is something you will hopefully only do once, so when you do commit, it has to be right. If you are not happy, it is not right. You say you only argue about whether you should continue your studies, but that is a big issue. If you give up the opportunity to go to university and have a fulfilling career, you will regret it. If the relationship is not working for you, you must end it.
I have a huge crush on a boy at school. He is two grades above me, but he is my best friend's brother so I see him quite a lot. Last week I confessed my true feelings for him and he said he liked me too - as a friend. What can I do to make him love me?
Big crush
write@ttitude says:This sounds like a serious case of unrequited love and I am afraid I do not have good news for you. Quite simply, you cannot make someone fall in love with you. Since he has made his feelings clear, you can either choose to be his friend or not. If you do, maybe his feelings for you will become romantic. But there are no guarantees. In the meantime, friendship is a good place to start.
