Fathers waking up today thinking that the world owes them something for all the hard work they have done over the past year should first take a look at the slew of surveys filling newspaper pages. In a nutshell, the polls marking Father's Day indicate that Hong Kong's dads need to do a bit more giving than taking. They show that most men spend too little time with their children and when they do, it is usually sharing passive, non-interactive activities, like watching television and movies. Nor do they appear to have heard that we have supposedly entered the age of the sensitive male - the man who equally divides household responsibilities with his partner; women still do the bulk of child-rearing. Even if they are aware that men should help out with chores like changing baby's nappy or giving junior medicine, there is the high probability it would have been best to have left it to mum. A survey in Baby magazine found that 60 per cent of respondents would gladly quit their jobs or take time off work to help take care of their young children, but most would make a mess of it if they did. The problem is not confined to fathers - a Hong Kong Association for Democracy and People's Livelihood study found 55 per cent of parents spend less than 15 minutes a day with their children. According to a Democratic Alliance for the Betterment and Progress of Hong Kong survey, only 30 per cent polled believed their offspring needed love. None of the opinion-gauging exercises determined how Hong Kong's fathers compensate for their parenting deficiencies. Anecdotal evidence would suggest it is with money - as much as is necessary to keep a child happy. Dads indignant at being painted in such a way would most likely point to how hard they work. After all, those hours in the office, a few more hours networking afterwards and early business breakfasts leave little opportunity to do more than ruffle junior's hair and mutter good morning before rushing for the door. There are simply not enough hours left in the day to learn how to take care of baby or to play board games or help with homework. The latest gadget-packed mobile phone or electronic games console should adequately compensate for the missed interaction, they would argue. There is no argument about Hong Kong being a pressure-cooker environment for workers. Employers expect them to work hard and for long hours. But those are not excuses for fathers to deny their children and partners the attention they deserve. Families only work when everyone is involved. Today, dads should make a few resolutions about putting more time aside for their spouses and children. They can have a Father's Day breather, partake of a little self-indulgence and then wade into the big, wide world of family responsibility.