Have you ever wanted to talk to someone but been too afraid? Or started a conversation and run out of things to say? Being able to initiate and keep a conversation going takes practice. But it's worth the effort because good conversations strengthen relationships - and sometimes they lead to friendships. Here are some tips to help you master the art of conversation.
Keeping abreast of current events
It might sound strange, but reading can make you a better conversationalist. Reading keeps you informed of what's going on. And that gives you something to talk about. So stop telling yourself you have nothing to say. Instead, scan a newspaper or magazine for the latest news or celebrity gossip - it might make a good conversation piece.
Initiating a conversation
Starting a conversation is all about establishing a connection. It doesn't matter if it's a stranger or a friend - we all share experiences we can talk about. If you're at a party, spark a conversation by asking the other person how they know the host. The key is to overcome your fear and jump in. Simply introduce yourself. Then engage the other person in conversation with an open-ended question (who, what, where, when, why or how).
Talking and listening
A good conversation is like a tennis match with words. Each person takes a turn talking and listening. Once you're deep in conversation, it's easy to forget to listen. We often focus on what to say next or how to get our comment in. Not listening or interrupting the other person in mid-sentence is a surefire way to kill a conversation. So focus on the other person and give them a chance to speak.