Lay down the rules from the beginning, clearly and politely. 'Each family has its own culture, manners and rules,' says Sharon Glick, a counsellor with St John's Cathedral Counselling Service. 'They need to be clear so people aren't quietly gritting their teeth. It's wise to tell your guests about your house rules and boundaries at the beginning and it's also wise for guests to clarify these things before they come.' Encourage your guests to break up their visit with a weekend away to give you some respite - the mainland, Macau and Bangkok are good, cheap options, or even just a couple of nights in a hotel in Hong Kong. Give them a key if you're busy and want them to be independent. A street map of Hong Kong, a local taxi number and directions to the MTR will also go a long way. Don't fall into the trap of feeling responsible and turn into a guide or chaperone. If you have a lone visitor who's here for the long haul, try to find them a like-minded buddy - someone also visiting who can share outings and so on. Alternatively, check clubs and organisations for courses and lectures that may interest them, or voluntary charity work. Be honest. If something about their behaviour is niggling you - you'd rather not eat with them every night or are too tired to sit talking until the early hours, for example - tell them. Chances are your visitors might want an early night, too, but didn't want to seem impolite. Be wary of guests with children, says Glick. 'We decided very quickly it was a no, no. It's too much to cope with.'