THE children of the camps often talked about going home, but the talk was based on dreams and distant memories. The only home many of the younger ones have ever known is one of dormitory blocks, barbed wire and despair.
As soon as they were old enough to understand, they were told that home would soon be on the beaches of California or the ski fields of Canada. In reality, home will be back in Vietnam - the children must now be told the truth.
For the parents, who begged, borrowed or stole enough money to buy a berth on a boat leaving Vietnam, the shame runs deep when they have to explain to their children that they must now return to Vietnam.
The task is made even harder by the fact that the adults have trouble admitting even to themselves that the only future on offer is in the very country they fled all those years ago.
But that is the stark truth facing tens of thousands of Vietnamese boat people stranded throughout Asia. Talks in Geneva starting on February 14 will confirm their fate once and for all.
The rapidly growing recognition of Vietnam in the international arena means that conditions in Vietnam and the prospect of jobs and a future for returnees have changed from even a few years ago.