Most brides-to-be are thrilled to pick their wedding dress and choose the flower arrangements. But what about the groom-to-be? What is his part in this wedding extravaganza? Grooms who have already headed down the aisle have some tips for future husbands to navigate through to marital bliss. 'My advice for grooms is to pick one thing and be solely responsible for that - like music,' says Tommy Yeung, who has been married since 2008. 'If you aren't in charge of one thing, then you will have to weigh in on stuff, which I frankly think guys are not interested in or qualified to make, like flowers, colour patterns and table arrangements.' Another helpful tip for keeping the romance alive, Yeung says, is to have a date night once a week. 'Everyone in Hong Kong is busy and works such long hours. I think you really have to make the time to spend time with each other.' Alex Tsang remembers his wedding day in 2003 as one of the most tiring days of his life. 'I had to be out of the house before the wedding, and this meant I had to sleep on a friend's couch for two nights. I was dead by the time the wedding started - and it was a full-on Chinese wedding with games in the morning, a tea ceremony, taking the pig to the mother-in-law's house, then you have to register and have a banquet. 'It was the longest day of my life, so make sure you have plenty of sleep a few nights before the wedding.' Daniel Chu, who was married in Phuket four years ago, has a bounty of tips. First, he says, get a good wedding planner so they can organise everything for you [if you can afford it]. Next, figure out your budget and try to stick to it. 'Everyone has a certain budget since people aren't made of money. But at the same time, for our wedding, we didn't want to seem too cheap. We wanted a nice location, and Thailand was a perfect place. We knew the venue would be cheaper in Thailand than in Hong Kong. And we [established] what we would pay for and what we wouldn't. So, for the bridesmaid dresses we paid, but for the groomsmen we didn't.' One item Chu wishes he could do over again is the wedding video, made by his brother and an usher. 'I wanted to save on costs, so I got them to do it. When we watched the video after, there were spots where we were too dark or the camera was shaking. Looking back, I wish we hired professionals to do it.' Steve Lam, who got married in Italy in 2002, says: 'Feign interest in everything your partner says about the wedding [planning], and let her have whatever she wants. But take control of the honeymoon and book something special, surprising her with it after the wedding finishes.'