Dear Toni I like a guy who's 10 years older than me - I'm still in my teens, and he's in his 20s. He's really nice and I think about him all the time. I met him recently while on holiday and saw him every day. But I've come back home, and he lives in another country. I feel really depressed already at being away from him. The thing is, he doesn't know that I like him. I kept trying to hint, but he didn't seem to notice. The other thing is that I also didn't actually talk to him. I got his phone number by scrolling through his friend's phone. I keep thinking that I'll have the guts to phone him. I'm still waiting. I know it's not really appropriate for me to have a crush on him as I only knew him for a couple of weeks -but I really like him. Dreamer Dear Besotted Ahh, summer crushes ... They're wonderful, in so many ways. Not only are they great to write about in your diary, so you'll look back fondly when you're older, there's something magical about their improbability. If nothing happens, you have bittersweet memories. If you do manage to go on a date, you'll have an extra special reason to remember your great holiday. If you miss the opportunity to introduce yourself to a summer crush, it's a bit hard to further the friendship once your holiday finishes. I think in general it's worth speaking to the object of your affections - guys don't understand subtlety, so your hints were probably never going to work. If you think someone you meet on holiday is nice, there's no harm in saying hi, and getting to know them properly. It's a bit trickier to get in touch with someone if you've never spoken. You could e-mail a mutual friend, and ask if she has his contact details. That way, you could introduce yourself, and maybe even become pen pals. You could find out if you had interests in common, and that way your friendship might develop. And if he didn't reply, at least you'd know you had made an effort. All these recommendations, however, are about summer crushes in general - and not about your case specifically. Honestly - and I don't want to sound like the boring old aunt nobody likes - 10 years is a massive age gap. It's natural to feel attracted to cool, older guys on holiday - they're more laidback and confident, and comfortable enough in their skin to be kind to everyone they meet. But it would be inappropriate for him to have noticed a teenager as anything more than a young girl who's staying in the same holiday resort. This particular crush is definitely best left as a daydream. But next time you're on holiday, and you meet a cute boy who's closer to you in age, take the initiative and say hello. At the very least, you'll make a cool new friend. Dear Josh My family recently moved from Canada to Hong Kong. I started at a new school at the end of the academic year, but made no friends. Everyone just stared at me and walked away. I ate lunch alone and felt so depressed. I really miss my friends back home, and I'm dreading going back for the new term. Cheerless Canuck Dear Lonesome Changes are never easy, especially when it involves different cultures and a different country, so well done for being brave. Keep in mind at all times that beginnings are the hardest. Hang in there - things will get a lot better. You started school at a very awkward time, when most people were no doubt bogged down in exam revision and holiday plans. It's not easy to drop into people's lives at the best of times, and when they're distracted, it's unlikely they'll make the effort to get to know you, however nice they are. Try to see the new school term as a new opportunity - put the past behind you and head to school with an open mind ready for adventure. You need to make new friends, and friendship isn't instant. It needs time for people to get to know you and occasions for the friendship to grow. So what you need is a little patience and a lot of proactivity. Identify a friendly face and approach him - or her. Ask if you can sit with them at lunch, and then direct the conversation to something you have in common - a class or homework assignment is a good start. Gradually, the conversation will develop onto more personal levels, and bit by bit you will feel more confident as your school and classmates will become more familiar. Perhaps you can first approach a girl, as they can often be more nurturing, although guys will often accept another guy into the fold without too much getting-to-know-you bumf. I think you also need to refocus the way you view your situation, and think about it from a positive angle. Moving to another country is a great opportunity to reinvent yourself. People don't know you, so you are free to present the best 'you' you can. Moving to another country is also - even though you don't see it yet - an amazing opportunity to broaden your horizons (that old chestnut) and learn about things your friends back in Canada have no clue about. If in a few months time, things don't get better, talk to your parents about you feel. Perhaps your school isn't the right fit, and maybe there are better options elsewhere. But honestly, I'm sure that within a couple of days of your going back this term, you'll have found people you find interesting and fun, and will be well on your way to feeling at home in Hong Kong. Give it a chance - I think you're going to love it.