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There is no one-size-fits-all solution to the challenges of parenting

Even though I’m a professional child psychologist, I sometimes wonder whether I have been a good enough mother, writes Lora Lee

8 May 2016 - 6:00AM

Even though I’m a professional child psychologist, I sometimes wonder whether I have been a good enough mother, writes Lora Lee

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to the challenges of parenting
Labelling your ex-partner won't help the children

How to deal with narcissistic personality disorder in a former spouse.

9 Nov 2015 - 10:00PM

How to deal with narcissistic personality disorder in a former spouse.

Labelling your ex-partner won't help the children
What to do if your child is anxious about starting school

Get your child to prepare a holiday diary so they have something to talk about at school, show them the way to school a few times, and see if the school teaches social skills.

19 Aug 2015 - 12:04PM

Get your child to prepare a holiday diary so they have something to talk about at school, show them the way to school a few times, and see if the school teaches social skills.

What to do if your child is anxious about starting school
How conflict between separated parents affects their children

Research clearly shows that the longer children are put in the middle of parental conflict or under the influence of a parent's alienating behaviour, the more emotional and psychological trauma they will experience. 

7 Jul 2015 - 6:06AM

Research clearly shows that the longer children are put in the middle of parental conflict or under the influence of a parent's alienating behaviour, the more emotional and psychological trauma they will experience. 

How conflict between separated parents affects their children
Don't put child in the middle of a parenting conflict with your ex-spouse

 A paradigm shift is needed in divorce co-parenting. He is no longer your ex-husband, he is the father of your child.

19 May 2015 - 6:02AM

 A paradigm shift is needed in divorce co-parenting. He is no longer your ex-husband, he is the father of your child.

Don't put child in the middle of a parenting conflict with your ex-spouse
Why cyberbullying is so hard on teenagers, and what Hong Kong parents can do

According to EU Kids Online, a poll conducted in 2013 in Britain, 5.43 million teenagers have experienced cyberbullying on social networks such as Facebook, Ask.fm and Twitter. What can we learn from the stories of cyberbullying at Ask.fm that led to seven suicides since the website launched in 2010? How can we protect our teenagers from falling victim or becoming the bully now we know males and females are equally likely to be attacked online by close friends as well as strangers?

22 Apr 2015 - 1:17PM

According to EU Kids Online, a poll conducted in 2013 in Britain, 5.43 million teenagers have experienced cyberbullying on social networks such as Facebook, Ask.fm and Twitter. What can we learn from the stories of cyberbullying at Ask.fm that led to seven suicides since the website launched in 2010? How can we protect our teenagers from falling victim or becoming the bully now we know males and females are equally likely to be attacked online by close friends as well as strangers?

Why cyberbullying is so hard on teenagers, and what Hong Kong parents can do
Divorce: should you rule it out just for your children's sake?

Divorce is not a one-off event and there is no quick or pain-free way to do it. An experienced marriage counsellor could help you see whether the relationship can go forward and, if not, help with the tasks of uncoupling in ways that are less damaging psychologically.

3 Mar 2015 - 6:01AM

Divorce is not a one-off event and there is no quick or pain-free way to do it. An experienced marriage counsellor could help you see whether the relationship can go forward and, if not, help with the tasks of uncoupling in ways that are less damaging psychologically.

Divorce: should you rule it out just for your children's sake?
Tips to give children access to quality parenting after divorce
Divorced dad struggles to set boundaries with ex-wife for parenting
Selective mutism requires personalised care
How parents can help their child face the challenges of Asperger's syndrome

My nine-year-old daughter has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. Having the diagnosis is useful, so that we know she is struggling and not being defiant or disrespectful in the way she relates to people. But what can we do to help her?

29 Sep 2014 - 5:44PM

My nine-year-old daughter has been diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. Having the diagnosis is useful, so that we know she is struggling and not being defiant or disrespectful in the way she relates to people. But what can we do to help her?

How parents can help their child face the challenges of Asperger's syndrome
Should my children help choose my girlfriend?

In my work with divorced couples, I have seen people go through three psychological stages during the recovery process. But many get stuck in the first stage, the "hummingbird" stage, as writer Abigail Trafford describes it in her book, Crazy Time.

29 Aug 2014 - 2:35PM

In my work with divorced couples, I have seen people go through three psychological stages during the recovery process. But many get stuck in the first stage, the "hummingbird" stage, as writer Abigail Trafford describes it in her book, Crazy Time.

Should my children help choose my girlfriend?
Relationships: put yourself in your child's shoes to understand bad behaviour

My stepson is coming to live with us this summer. I have been married to his mother for five years and we have a six-year-old daughter.

29 Jul 2014 - 10:41AM

My stepson is coming to live with us this summer. I have been married to his mother for five years and we have a six-year-old daughter.

Relationships: put yourself in your child's shoes to understand bad behaviour
Parents can help their children embrace third-culture identity

At the 20th anniversary celebrations of my son's soccer club, the head coach delivered a touching farewell to two players he had trained. It was obviously difficult for him to say goodbye to the children in whom he invested not only time but emotion.

20 Jul 2018 - 2:53PM

At the 20th anniversary celebrations of my son's soccer club, the head coach delivered a touching farewell to two players he had trained. It was obviously difficult for him to say goodbye to the children in whom he invested not only time but emotion.

Parents can help their children embrace third-culture identity
Relationships: why perfectionist children freeze up
Relationships: no replacement for quality time
Relationships: How to bring step-families together

My children are coming to Hong Kong this summer on a visit from England. We had many problems when they were here during Christmas.

23 Apr 2014 - 6:02PM

My children are coming to Hong Kong this summer on a visit from England. We had many problems when they were here during Christmas.

Relationships: How to bring step-families together
Relationships: how to manage the nanny-child bond without feeling threatened
Will separation damage my daughter?
Relationships: do dyslexic children need a therapist, and which type?
Relationships: obsession with death a normal stage of development for kids
Relationships: tell your child onlywhat she needs to know about divorce
Relationships: how selective internet usage can benefit shy children

My seven-year-old daughter is very quiet and does not have many friends. She is spending more time on Facebook and playing online games. Recently, we went to the birthday party of a friend’s child and she sat in the corner and played on her iPad.

19 Nov 2013 - 8:42AM

My seven-year-old daughter is very quiet and does not have many friends. She is spending more time on Facebook and playing online games. Recently, we went to the birthday party of a friend’s child and she sat in the corner and played on her iPad.

Relationships: how selective internet usage can benefit shy children
Relationships: routines after separation

Young children don't like change, especially at times of uncertainty and major upheaval in their lives - they want and need all the routines for them to feel safe.

28 Jan 2013 - 5:08PM

Young children don't like change, especially at times of uncertainty and major upheaval in their lives - they want and need all the routines for them to feel safe.

Relationships: routines after separation
Relationships: my seven-year-old daughter refuses to talk at school

Our family moved to Hong Kong this summer from Italy. We used to live in a small town, with extended family nearby. I have three girls aged five, seven and 11. My elder and younger have settled well, but my middle child simply refuses to talk in school.

12 Oct 2013 - 7:51PM

Our family moved to Hong Kong this summer from Italy. We used to live in a small town, with extended family nearby. I have three girls aged five, seven and 11. My elder and younger have settled well, but my middle child simply refuses to talk in school.

Relationships: my seven-year-old daughter refuses to talk at school
How post-divorce families can get along

I have been divorced for four years and now plan to marry my girlfriend of two years. But my daughter, 16, might move to Hong Kong. Her mother in Britain has threatened several times to send her to live with me. My daughter is going through this Gothic phase, but she is doing OK in school and we are still very close.

9 Apr 2013 - 9:31AM

I have been divorced for four years and now plan to marry my girlfriend of two years. But my daughter, 16, might move to Hong Kong. Her mother in Britain has threatened several times to send her to live with me. My daughter is going through this Gothic phase, but she is doing OK in school and we are still very close.

How post-divorce families can get along
Self-kindness can help children solve their problems