Hong Kong needs a strong feminist movement, and not just for its women
Anson Au says it’s important to give more opportunities for women to speak out about the abuse they’ve encountered and to resist sexist expectations, but also for men to know it’s OK to be caring, and to reveal their own stories of abuse
Earlier this year, “ morality schools” were exposed in China that trained women by instilling absolute obedience to husbands, even in the face of abuse. Meanwhile, over the past year in Hong Kong, “ part-time girlfriends”, where women – and even minors – offer anything from companionship to sex for money, have gained publicity.
And while people on social media have been quick denounce them, the practices are anything but surprising: a silent history of gender inequality in society has worked to disempower women. Hong Kong needs a strong feminist movement to cut through the silence surrounding the disadvantaged.
All around, women’s voices go unheard. We need a feminist movement with the force, voice and support to stretch across all social strata and change the way we perceive women.
It should begin with holding those in power accountable. More resources must be invested in counselling services and oversight mechanisms that protect women. Policies that perpetuate their disenfranchisement must be revamped, such as extending maternity leave beyond its paltry 10 weeks to a decent amount as in Canada, the UK and other developed economies. Information campaigns and safe spaces should be developed for women to share their stories, taking note from the global #metoo movement.
But gender inequality doesn’t just affect women. Men’s psychological health suffers from expectations of hyper-masculinity and dominance. This includes taking up the mantle of primary breadwinner. Paternity leave is a measly three days in Hong Kong, as if to bar men from caregiving activities. Social research shows men tend to suppress sadness and express discontent through anger. In social interactions, men are also predisposed to influencing and dominating conversations, rather than listening and understanding. Emotion is taboo, a sign of weakness. These expectations create immense pressure for men to succeed, shoulder burdens and feign strength, with little space for vulnerability.
As with women, correcting gender inequality for men means developing information campaigns and policies to change toxic expectations. The standards forcing women under the cosh place it in men’s hands; the norms that teach women they are powerless teach men the need to control and dominate.
Feminism doesn’t just benefit women. At the heart of its philosophy is a vision of equity – not equality – for men and women. A strong feminist movement does not aim to treat men and women identically, erasing the characteristics and experiences that make each unique. Equity means shaping men’s and women’s lives in ways that enable them to attain a high standard of well-being, while giving voice to their experiences. By empowering both women and men, we can be a more equitable society with the high moral and living standards a developed society should have.
As Gloria Steinem once said: “Though we have the courage to raise our daughters like our sons, we’ve rarely had the courage to raise our sons like our daughters.” Hong Kong needs to do both.
Anson Au is a visiting researcher in the Department of Sociology at Hong Kong Baptist University
This article appeared in the South China Morning Post print edition as: Putting women on better footing will help men too