From tuxedos to almost anything goes: changing dress codes in Hong Kong
Restaurants, hotels and hosts have relaxed their dress codes considerably, but even so, some guests wear shorts to a black-tie event or for fine dining, or the wrong colour of dress for a themed party
Women wore ball gowns and men were in tuxedos as they entered the ballroom of the Grand Hyatt Hong Kong. The invitation indicated a black-tie event and all but one guest kept to the dress code.
“There was a guy there dressed in a polo shirt and long shorts. He must have been someone important because he didn’t seem to care that he was underdressed,” recalls the society editor of a luxury magazine.
“Some ladies had really gone all out to dress up, and I went to the trouble of renting a tuxedo and learning how to put on a bow tie from YouTube. I was really stressing out about the whole thing,” he says.
The well-heeled society women at his table couldn’t identify the casually dressed young man, who seemed to be from China.
Ignoring dress code is not a new phenomenon. The society editor also remembers a black-and-white themed event where one woman stood out from the crowd in a red dress. “It was like, Wow! Check me out,” he says.
Style maven and owner of Sevva, Ms B’s Cakery and C’est la B cafes Bonnae Gokson says it shows a lack of etiquette when guests do not follow dress codes, because following them is a sign of respect to the event and the host.
She cited the annual Met Gala ball, one of the fashion highlights in the society calendar in New York and Kanye West’s appearance at this year’s ball wearing ripped jeans and a silver sequined Balmain jacket.
Lucy Hume of Debrett’s, the quintessentially British etiquette guide, says dress codes are important for the guests and the host.
“A dress code can give a sense of occasion to a particular event and help make it feel special – if you stipulate ‘black tie’ on an invitation, for example, your guests will know to expect a certain level of formality. A dress code can also put guests at ease by clearing up ambiguity and ensuring that they’re not the only person wearing jeans and trainers to a formal drinks reception, or a lounge suit to a casual supper party.”
“One year it was a leather jacket theme and it was fun for the younger generation. The dress codes now are certainly different from ball gowns from more than 10 years ago,” recalls Yao, wife of Jeffrey Yau, founder and CEO of luxury eyewear chain Puyi Optical.
In the past 10 to 15 years dress codes in Hong Kong have relaxed, but how far people should go is cause for debate.
Paul Lau Sze-lai, who has been with Hugo’s restaurant at the Hyatt Regency in Tsim Sha Tsui for 36 years, has seen how dress codes have evolved. He remembers when the fine-dining European restaurant had a sign at the door stating men had to wear a jacket and tie and women had to sport “proper attire”.
“If the men didn’t have a jacket and tie we would supply it for them. But by the end of the 1980s they didn’t have to wear ties,” he says.
These days the dress code at the restaurant is even more relaxed. Men must wear long trousers, and the only footwear not allowed is sandals. Women can wear pretty much whatever they want.
“Today you can be yourself and be casual and comfortable. You can be sporty casual too. Not wearing a jacket isn’t wrong – some outfits don’t need jackets,” he says.
While the dress code is explicitly explained over the phone to guests when they book tables, they may sometimes forget to pass on the message to their friends or guests, which results in some red faces upon arrival.
“Some guests may have forgotten, but we don’t want to upset other people who may question why another diner can wear shorts when they have put the effort into dressing properly,” explains Lau.
To rectify the situation, some diners rush out and quickly buy a pair of long trousers, while others are strategically seated in corner seats.
“But when it comes to brunch it’s difficult because we have a buffet and our guests get up to choose their own food,” says Lau. “In this case we offer to get food for them.”
The only restaurant in Hong Kong that still requires men to wear a jacket for dinner is Gaddi’s in The Peninsula Hong Kong. The hotel offers no further comment except to say: “We strongly encourage our guests to adhere to our dress code at all restaurants; and in some cases, should a guest forget to bring his jacket to dinner at Gaddi’s, we will lend him one of ours.”
Yau reports that when she went to L’Atelier de Joel Robuchon earlier this year for lunch, she was surprised to see a table of diners very casually dressed. “I think they were tourists, but they were having caviar and fine wines for lunch.”
Desmond So Chung-fai, host of TVB’s Dolce Vita, who regularly emcees Hong Kong's most glamourous gala dinners and brand events, has seen guests turning up in T-shirts and jeans.
“I understand some people are just being practical, or they may not own the proper clothing. Some feel that at certain venues like Chinese banquet halls, it’s OK to dress casually. What they don't realise is that dressing improperly is a sign of disrespect and those who do it often have the attitude that they are not doing anything wrong.
There are certain events in life that require formality, like weddings and funerals. Out of respect for hosts, family members and other guests, dressing appropriately is crucial."
So believes upbringing, or exposure to international events, does have a marginal effect on knowing what to wear for an occasion. But it's also common sense and the respect that comes with having it. He doesn't like blaming inappropriateness on culture alone. "I've heard people say Chinese people are just not as formal about dress code. This doesn't make sense. Traditionally, Chinese have been very big on ritual. For instance, the majority of Chinese people know not to wear bright colours, like red, to funerals. So if people don't respect dress code, it's got more to do with the lack of sensitivity of an individual than mass 'cultural apathy'.”
When asked about dress codes for gala events and parties, he says they are often more open to interpretation because what is suggested is usually a fun theme of some sort, like "Silver Radiance". "It's harder to get something like that wrong."
More than five years ago, So set up East-West Institute of Applied Etiquette, advising clients on business etiquette, how to develop executive presence, speech making and what to wear in the workplace, among other topics.
“Some young professionals in Hong Kong think they should look like David Beckham, Andy Lau Tak-wah, or G-Dragon, the lead singer of Korean pop band Big Bang. They dress extremely stylishly, but their suits are very tight, and the lapels and ties too thin. In industries like law and banking, your credibility comes from being professional – this is hard to do when you look like a K-pop star," So says.
He also points out that purple shirts with silver ties, or dark shirts with equally dark ties may look good on popular media icons but are too radical for financial institutions.
For women, common errors include skirts that are too short and visible coloured bras under translucent white shirts.
“I have banking friends in human resources who have had to send employees home to change because of inappropriate dress. This is embarrassing for all parties involved.”
When So talks to his young clients, he explains that their personal image reflects the reputation of the company they work for. He doesn't fault them though because not everyone has the necessary knowledge. "You can’t blame those committing errors because many have not had exposure to what they should be wearing. For reference, they only know what they see online, in movies and in other popular media. They think attire that is 'trendy' and 'makes one good looking' automatically makes it right, but this is just not the case. The emphasis should be on appropriateness and professionalism.”
