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Stars like Lizzo are having emotional outbursts on Instagram Live, but in a world where anything on social media feels curated, it’s seen by some as contrived, embarrassing or both. Photo: YouTube/Lizzo Instagram

Lizzo, Megan Thee Stallion, Charli D’Amelio have all cried on Instagram Live – but are the emotional outbursts real or not?

  • In a world where anything on social media feels curated, spontaneous displays of emotion – think Lizzo crying about her haters – are seen by some as contrived
  • Crying on Instagram Live could be seen by some as a form of ‘sadfishing’ – a term for posting sad content online to garner sympathy, support or drive engagement

What do singers Chloe Bailey, Lizzo, Megan Thee Stallion and Dua Lipa, TikTok star Charli D’Amelio, Euphoria actress Sydney Sweeney and countless other influencers have in common?

They’ve all shed tears during an Instagram Live – or “cried on IG live”.

Ever since Instagram introduced ephemeral live broadcasts to the platform (they can be saved but are more often screen-recorded and posted to other social media platforms), celebrities, influencers and everyday people have had one more outlet to share every facet of their lives in a way that seems even more real and relatable.

But in a world where anything on social media feels curated, spontaneous displays of emotions – efforts to vent, raise awareness and connect with followers – are seen by some as either contrived, embarrassing or both.

Singer Chloe Bailey cries online. Photo: YouTube

That’s led to the memeification of crying on live. As in “imagine crying on live”, said by people who predict they’d never be in that situation. It’s the polar opposite of the normalise-talking-about-your-feelings-and-rejecting-toxic-energy therapy speak – basically, live your truth, but log off first.

It’s inspired skits on TikTok, particularly poking fun at influencers who cry during live-streams while apologising or expressing that, actually, it’s OK to be vulnerable on the internet.

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Crying on live could be seen as another form of vulnerability porn or “sadfishing”, a term for posting sad content online to garner sympathy, seek support or drive engagement. The term “sadfishing”, which peaked in 2019, was inspired by Kendall Jenner after her mother Kris hyped up Kendall’s plans to be “vulnerable” and share her “raw story”, only to announce her partnership with acne treatment brand Proactiv.

Part of the appeal of an Instagram live for a celebrity is that it allows them to address fans directly in a way that is (or at least feels) intimate and unscripted while still controlling the narrative. But the more famous someone is, the less likely they are to receive the benefit of the doubt that their emotions are real.

Dua Lipa crying on an Instagram Live. Photo: YouTube

“The celebrities that we saw in the past in mainstream media were very carefully curated by other people to cater to a fan base,” says Jenna Drenten, an associate professor of marketing at Loyola University Chicago, in the US state of Illinois.

“Today, we have things like Instagram Live, Cameo, TikTok, these very of-the-moment, always-on platform features, where celebrities can convey this real-time, behind-the-scenes perspective of their lived experiences.”

These tools give them “a chance to be more human”, she says. On the other hand fans, and often the media, view anything a celebrity does as content. “There’s a perspective that any tears are only for entertainment, because celebrities are always for our own entertainment, for fans entertainment.”

Lizzo (right) and Cardi B perform Rumors. Photo: YouTube/Lizzo Music

On August 15, two days after the music video for her new single, Rumors featuring Cardi B, dropped, Lizzo hopped onto Instagram Live. The song, full of her usual self-confidence and swagger, is about brushing off haters on the internet (“Sick of rumours/But haters do what they do”). But instead of celebrating the success of the song, she admitted that sometimes mean comments on the internet do bother her.

Sitting in a restroom with a full face of make-up, a wig cap and a grey zip-up jumper, tears welled in Lizzo’s eyes as she opened up to thousands of followers – who in return sent comments full of support and heart emojis – about dealing with cyberbullying.

“On the days when I should feel the happiest, it just – I feel so down,” she said.

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The live isn’t available on Lizzo’s Instagram account, but it’s easy to find. Soon, fans published screen recordings of the clip to YouTube and Twitter. Blogs and news outlets wrote about it; her haters made fun of her for crying on live; and her followers and supporters – including Cardi B – criticised the internet trolls for pushing her to that point.

Lizzo reappeared on live later that week. “Don’t worry about me … I have several forms of therapy, including a therapist,” she said in the video, while sitting in front of a giant chocolate cake decorated like her hand from the Rumors music video. “I’m OK! But just know that I’m the kind of artist that is going to be completely transparent if it’s necessary to start a conversation for some progress.”

Her initial video was part of a subgenre of crying on live – women, particularly black women, resetting the narratives (and dispelling rumours) circulating around them. This was the flip side of that.

Crying leads to catharsis, and catharsis leads to peace of mind. Or as Lizzo put it: “Having my Cake and eating it b****”.