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Parenting: newborns to toddlers

How to deal with children who are picky eaters and get them to eat new things

  • Author Dina Rose has ideas on how to get kids to enjoy healthy eating
  • Tips include not pressuring children to eat everything on their plate
PUBLISHED : Wednesday, 07 November, 2018, 1:02pm
UPDATED : Wednesday, 07 November, 2018, 1:28pm

Once upon a time, not too long ago, parents would force children to clean their plates during meals, regardless of their hunger level. We now know that this feeding strategy can teach children to ignore their own hunger cues and subsequently overeat as adults, and thankfully this practice has declined.

The next contingent of parents educated themselves about nutrition to the degree that they earned the moniker “helicopter.” They progressed from expecting their kids to eat every item on a plate to expecting them to eat some of every nutrient on a plate.

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When that didn’t happen, these parents began to panic. They begged, cajoled or bribed their kids to eat three more bites, if they didn’t give in and make a second dinner so the child would at least eat something. This reinforced a generation’s tendency toward picky eating.

Since neither of these approaches results in a child who eats a wide variety of healthy foods, how should the story be rewritten for this generation? It boils down to not pressuring children to eat, and always making mealtimes positive.

As a prologue, all parents should live by the mantra, “It is not your job to get your child to eat.” We are responsible for providing them with food. It is our children’s job to decide if they want to eat the foods we serve. But we can encourage them to eat well.

First, stop pushing them. As Dina Rose says in her book It’s Not About the Broccoli, “Pressure is your enemy.” Instead of harping on at a child to eat new foods, Rose suggests getting children used to trying new foods. This could be tasting a new variety of apple, a yellow cherry tomato instead of a red one or even a new type of cookie.

It is widely shown that many children need to taste a food at least 10 times before they decide they like it, so getting kids enthusiastic to taste new foods is important.

Many parents give up long before the 10th taste or start begging, pleading and forcing their kid to try one bite, making dinner a battle and priming the child to never enjoy that battleground food. Instead, parents should continue to offer foods under no-pressure situations. If a child huffs and puffs and doesn’t taste it, she doesn’t taste it that night. No big deal – there is always another night.

Because children don’t have as many food experiences as adults, they can’t anticipate what something might taste like. This makes it scary for them to try an unfamiliar food. If we help them understand how something tastes in an honest, non-manipulative way (in other words, don’t tell them plain yogurt tastes just like ice cream), they will be more open to trying it.

If they do try it, don’t immediately ask them if they like it with an eager, hopeful voice. Instead, ask them to describe it: is it reminiscent of another food? Is it sweet, salty or spicy? Crunchy or chewy? Hot or cold? In her book, Rose lists questions parents can ask and words children can use to describe their food. Even after they have described it, do not ask if they like it, because if they say they don’t, they will be less likely to try it again later. Just let them be pleased that they tasted a bite.

Second, parents should allow their young kids to play with their food, push it around their plate, smell it or mix it. In her guide Try New Food! dietitian Jill Castle explains that “the tactile investigation of food is part of development – it’s necessary, productive and speeds up the learning curve.”

And finally, parents should lower expectations of both how much kids should eat and how much they should try. Rose validates that a taste can be tiny, such as one-quarter of a pea or one sesame seed.

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Castle confirms that even a lick of a food counts as a taste. Talk about lowered expectations! When we move from expecting children to try and then eat a lot of a new foods to expecting children to look at, smell, touch, play with, lick or maybe, just maybe, take a tiny bite of new foods, kids are more likely to meet those expectations.