Is your long-term relationship boring? 4 tips to keep things fun and sexy, from trying new things to surprising each other

Every relationship requires work, especially long-term relationships. How can we keep the fun alive when it feels like you know everything about each other?

Therapist Sara Kuburic gives her advice on how to stop yours from becoming boring, such as giving each other a new skill to learn and trying new sex positions

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Every relationship requires work, especially long-term relationships. To stop yours from becoming boring or stale, do not be afraid to change things up. Photo: Shutterstock

Published: 5:15pm, 25 Sep 2022

Think back to the iconic romantic comedies of the ’90s or early 2000s.

The focus is always on people getting together and little information is given about what happens once they do. What does their happily ever after look like? Are they just in a perpetual state of bliss? Do they have an everlasting passion for one another, and are all their biggest issues behind them?

The answer is no. Every relationship requires work, especially long-term relationships. Maybe you have overcome the hurdle of making the first move, treading unfamiliar territories, compromising and getting to know each another, but with time, new hurdles emerge.

Here is a common one: keeping the relationship interesting and fun for years. So, how can we keep the fun alive in a long-term relationship? I have four suggestions.

Every relationship requires work, especially long-term relationships. Photo: Shutterstock

Stay curious

One of the biggest relationship killers is assuming we know our partner so well, we stop paying attention. We assume we know everything there is to know, so we stop listening.

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