Health and wellness

Hong Kong cancer survivor’s tips for a happier, healthier life, why balance is key and five questions to answer before you can attain it

Feisal Alibhai didn’t smoke, touch alcohol, tea or coffee, rarely ate out and worked out every day. When, aged 35, he got 10 cancer tumours, the businessman sought to understand why. These are the lessons he learned

PUBLISHED : Monday, 01 January, 2018, 6:03pm
UPDATED : Tuesday, 02 January, 2018, 5:40pm

On Sundays, Feisal Alibhai and his two boys have an after-dinner meeting of a kind not seen in many other Hong Kong households.

“We sit down and decide the meals for every day, from Monday to Sunday, breakfast, lunch, dinner. On a full stomach. That makes them learn to be proactive and not reactive, and they get to see a full balance, the full view of what they’re eating,” Alibhai says. “At the age of seven and nine, they were already learning to control what goes in their mouths, and to balance.”

It is never too early to take charge of your health and all the elements that may impact it, including how and what we eat, he says – and he speaks from experience.

In September 2004, the then-35-year-old high-flying family business titan got a harsh reality check: a stage-three lung cancer diagnosis. Eleven months on, and after 20 rounds of gruelling chemotherapy and three operations to remove 10 tumours, he began his recovery and personal transformation. Now it is his mission to help others take charge of their health, too.

“I want you to learn from idiots like me,” he told attendees of the Khoja Business Leaders’ Summit, in Davos, Switzerland, in September 2017. “I want you to make better choices based on my life’s lesson and not have to pay the school fees.”

Far from being an idiot, the Democratic Republic of Congo-born Alibhai, a graduate of The Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, had been heading up a multimillion-dollar, fast-moving consumer goods business with 10,000 employees in 15 countries – most of them war-torn, third-world places “where nobody wants to go”.

He had moved to Hong Kong from New York in 1992 to set up a buying office, and was spending about half his time on the road. Illness pushed him in a new direction.

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Alibhai had ready access to all the resources he needed to recover. In the decade that followed, many relatives and associates reached out for his help when they, too, had an unexpected health crisis. Spending time in their hospital rooms, and seeking out the best available care for them, he learned that, no matter how well off or educated, “nobody had a structure in place to protect, manage and improve their health”.

He established Qineticare in Hong Kong in 2013 to offer such a structure. Its bespoke services include a consolidation of clients’ family medical histories, and assessments of their current health status to understand their medical predisposition to disease, and to build a medical team for them to call on at any time, from any place.

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Feisal Alibhai

Medicine, though, is only one part of the health equation.

After his brush with death, Alibhai wanted to understand how it happened, especially to him. “I used to do [medical] check-ups every year in January, a full screening,” he said. He had home-cooked meals, and rarely ate out. “I would work out every day. I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I don’t drink coffee. I don’t drink tea. I don’t do recreational funny things, either.”

When the doctors shrugged their shoulders, he turned to yoga masters, intuitive healers, and a host of world-class experts for answers. “They started to explain the imbalance of life,” Alibhai said, and he began to learn about finding balance.

A second pillar of the business, what Alibhai calls “beyond medical”, is all about balance. It is the area that most excites him, and he freely shares what he has learned: that addressing five fundamental elements that impact our health can transform our lives.

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Qineticare now taps an army of coaches, among them an Ayurvedic (traditional Indian medicine) master, a mind trainer, a parenting coach (former television show host Oprah Winfrey’s favourite, New York-based clinical psychologist Dr Shefali Tsabary), a sleep coach, integrative medicine doctors, and a physical trainer.

From them, Alibhai has learned the five questions we must ask ourselves: “How am I eating? How am I moving? How am I sleeping? How am I thinking? How am I feeling?”

Channelling these for optimum health and well-being, he achieved a full recovery. Finding the right balance in each area will help you gain control of your life by allowing you to respond, rather than react, to situations.

Alibhai’s tips for living a healthier, happier life

On Eating: Know how you feel before you have your meal. At the end of your meal, you should feel exactly the same, but no longer be hungry. You should not feel full or heavy. You should never allow yourself to go to a state of hunger, because then you are reactive.

Are you eating in a way that your energy is balanced throughout the day, or do you have highs and lows? Imagine the impact those imbalances have on the quality of your decision making. Tweak what you eat to find what works for you.

What is the “return on ingestion”? Eat with the end in mind.

Eat at the same times each day, so that your body does not need to second-guess and go into preservation mode.

Alibhai’s typical meal plan: For breakfast, a vegetable smoothie with cucumber, spinach or kale, a whole avocado, lemon or lime, rock salt, and a bit of basil. A snack of 10 almonds and 10 walnuts between breakfast and lunch. For lunch, a salad with lettuce, a nut, a vegetable, a fruit and a dressing. An afternoon snack of plain chocolate, 85 per cent cocoa, 10 per cent sugar. For dinner, a cooked meal with either long-grain brown rice, quinoa or pasta, mainly vegetarian.

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On Moving: Are you being physically active consistently, at least five times throughout the week? And are you scheduling it in a way in which it is non-negotiable? For me, it’s got to be in the morning. If I schedule it at the end of the day, then I have an option of being tired and cancelling. But if it’s in the morning, I’m full of energy. Once you make it non-negotiable, it’s a go.

Alibhai’s workout plan: I stretch every morning. I alternate between yoga, hatha yoga, breathing exercises and cardio training, every other day.

On Sleep: Are you getting the rest and recovery you need? Having seven to seven-and-a-half hours allows for a full five sleep cycles. The value of the exercise and nutrition will be compromised without sufficient sleep. Sleep consistently at the same time so that your body knows when it is time to sleep, and when it is time to wake up, without an alarm.

On Thinking: Are you able to be fully “present”, focused on the people or task at hand? How much outside thought is actually going on while you are with your children, spouse, or loved ones, with people that matter?

If you are not able to give them your full attention, the answer could be meditation, or mind training.

Some people will say they don’t have the time, know where to go, or how to begin. There are many inexpensive multi-day retreats in Hong Kong run by charities. You give what you can. Meditation reduces stress and helps a person to be centred, to step out of a situation and not react emotionally.

The simple act of writing down the thoughts that keep spinning through your mind also helps. Once you write it down, you stop having the same thought. You can do it at the start or end of the day, or both.

Alibhai’s daily mind training: I start my day with meditation. I end my day with meditation. How I start and how I end determines my day, determines my sleep. The state I’m in when I start my day and end my day will determine my experience.

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On Feeling: Do you have a positive outlook? What is the state of your emotional being throughout the day? More importantly, do you feel connected to other people?

Former US surgeon general Vivek Murthy says the opposite of health is isolation. Science tells us loneliness puts our body in a chronic stress state, and is associated with a shortened lifespan. We go to work with dozens of other people around us, but most of us stare at screens, exchange text messages, but don’t open up to others.

Alibhai’s experience: While running a business with thousands of employees, he was not communicating his thoughts and feelings to anyone. “I was alone,” he said, and when “you have nobody to talk to, you’re isolated. That emotional disconnect is what hurts you.” Meditation helped him to switch off and be present.

“I was never ‘off’. In one-third of the photos with me with my kids, I’m on the phone. It’s a sad reality. Was I physically there? Yes. Was I mentally there? No. Did I even understand the meaning of presence? No.

“Was I focused when I did my work? Yes. But the machine was continuously running.”