Attacked for refusing sex: in Indonesia, the ‘epidemic’ of violence against women
- The highest number of cases of violence against women occurred within households, government data show
- Indonesian women also face frequent sexual harassment in public spaces, including in the street and on public transport
In one incident, a man in Jakarta reportedly slashed his wife’s throat with a machete after she refused to have sex with him, an act witnessed by their two children, aged seven and 14.
The mother survived the attack last week, police told reporters, after neighbours heard screams, broke down the door and found her in a critical condition. The 34-year-old woman is recovering and “now able to speak”.
This week a mother of three from west Java attacked her husband with an axe after he allegedly demanded his sex “quota”. Police said the woman, who gave birth two months ago, had post-partum depression.
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“The stories were so shocking, one because they were pretty graphic and brutal, but at the same time I was quite shocked that not many media picked it up,” said Hannah Al-Rashid, an Indonesian actor and activist.
“Maybe it’s because in these cases both women were married and it was about marital rape, something that a lot of people in this country deny exists.”
Describing violence against women in Indonesia as an “epidemic”, the actor said: “I think what scares me most about the issue here is that you can call it an epidemic and not much is being done.”
In a country where airing marital problems has long been considered taboo, the recent incidents are indicative of a deeply ingrained problem, said Mariana Amiruddin, from the national commission on violence against women.
“In Indonesia marital rape is subject to the domestic violence act,” she said. “But the culture here still considers that wives have to sexually serve [their husbands] under any circumstances.”
Data from the national commission in 2018 showed the highest number of cases of violence against women occurred within households, with a rising trend of marital rape, in part, the commission believes, because more women are coming forward.
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The survey, which included 62,000 respondents from across 34 provinces, revealed that more than 60 per cent of women in Indonesia had experienced verbal sexual harassment, and more than half before the age of 16.
The results also tackled several victim-blaming myths:
“Victims of sexual harassment have been blamed a lot for being seen as ‘inviting’ harassment by wearing sexy clothes or walking alone at night,” said Rika Rosvianti, from one of the groups involved.
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“But all these assumptions can be refuted by the results of this survey. The survey results clearly show that veiled women are often harassed, even during the day.”
Some 17 per cent of women surveyed said they were sexually harassed in public while wearing a hijab, while 35 per cent said they were harassed during the day, compared to 21 per cent at night.
Speaking at the release of the survey, Al-Rashid called on the public to raise awareness about violence against women, particularly online.
“Sometimes we think who are we to change anything? But we actually can make a change, one case at a time.”
