Asking for a Friend: Help! I’m nervous about the new school year and making friends – how do I talk to people?

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  • This week, we give a student tips on how to socialise with their new classmates
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Everyone gets nervous about meeting new people and making friends, but the key is to be yourself. Photo: Shutterstock

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Dear Friend,

I’m really anxious about starting a new school year. I need to learn how to socialise with all my new classmates, but I’m very shy. Do you have any advice?

Sincerely, Shy

How to maintain a friendship

Dear Shy,

A new academic year can be nerve-racking, especially if you’re at a brand-new school or in a different class from your friends. It’s totally normal to feel nervous and afraid of being rejected by your new classmates. Here are some suggestions for getting to know people better:

Be proactive and take the lead

Take the initiative and join group activities with your new classmates. You can choose from extracurricular activities, such as sports clubs or art societies, or just try to work with different groups of students during class. This will help you get to know people better, plus you can bond over whatever activity you’re working on.

Join clubs that suit your interests so you can find new friends. Photo: Shutterstock

You could also look up conversation topics in advance so you always have a few handy when you meet new people. Googling “conversation topics” brings up interesting prompts like, “What has been the best part of your day so far?” and “What book are you reading right now?” People appreciate it when others take an interest in them.

Good manners go a long way

Hong Kong is a big, busy city, and most people don’t take the time to slow down and talk to the people around them. So just asking your classmate “Good morning! How are you?” could brighten their day and make them want to get to know you better.

Help! I get jealous when my friend hangs out with their other friends

Be yourself!

We know you’re shy, and the tips we’ve given aren’t meant to change you; they’re simply a way to bring out your bright and shining personality. Ultimately, you should just be yourself: if you’re polite and take the time to get to know others, you’ll make friends in no time at all.

You’ve got this, Friend of a Friend

The question was answered by clinical psychologists from the Department of Health under Shall We Talk, a mental health initiative launched with the Advisory Committee on Mental Health.

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