Cleo Wade is known not only for her poetry, but her positive, uplifting Instagram mantras that have earned her a number of famous fans including Yara Shahidi and Jessica Alba.
So it’s not surprising that on a day when she’s running around like crazy promoting her new book, her outlook remains eternally optimistic.
“I [recently] went on a complaint cleanse,” she said, explaining her reasoning: “‘Your dream book is coming out into the world, it’s exactly the book you wanted to make. You can find a way to not complain about the logistics, work and people and things that come with it.’”
Heart Talk: Poetic Wisdom for a Better Life isn’t a self-help book, but it contains plenty of verses from Wade to feed the soul – she calls it a “healthy soul diet”. The book covers everything from self-worth to relationships.
As Wade explained, if you want to be in a position where you an care for others, you first need to know how to properly care for yourself. “What is the opposite of self-care? Self-abandonment.”
There is a desire for people to be seen and heard. We can’t possibly learn how to love our neighbour unless we find common ground with them. But also we can’t understand how to listen to others if we don’t listen to ourselves. Whenever young people email me about heartbreak, I tell them ... listen to yourself, because there’s such an education as far as your learning, your needs and desires.
For me, I definitely have that boundary of if I don’t feel like I could really be in that space, hear about your life, show up for you, and offer the best of me to you, then I know that’s a day that I need to stay home.
I definitely think a lot of it comes from growing up in a place like New Orleans because it’s a deeply expressive culture. Also my dad is an artist [and] my mom is a chef. Having these people with such clear manifestations of what they like to do with their time [helped me] understand that there is a very individualised thing you can do in the world.
It can either be used as a tool or a weapon. I always encourage people to really monitor their media diets. I don’t think food is the only thing we digest. We also ingest information and if you’re finding your media [is] making you judge or covet in a way that doesn’t make you feel good, then it’s time to maybe switch up your media.