Letters from the Dorm: Moving in means moving on

Talise Tsai
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It's human nature to want to belong. Most of us have experienced "moving" at some point in our lives, whether we're switching homes, schools, or even going to another country. The experience can be scary and unpleasant, but with the right attitude, it can be an exciting adventure.

The best lesson I learned after moving to Canada is to be open-minded and not be afraid to try new things.

It's important to get out of your comfort zone and talk to people that you normally wouldn't talk to, as this exposes you to new viewpoints and challenges your own ideas.

From my own experiences, I've discovered that when I cling to the past, blending into my new community becomes much harder. This is because glorifying the past creates expectations that are almost impossible to meet. It prevented me from appreciating and genuinely being interested in the people around me.

Before moving to Canada, I decided to see change as a chance to grow, to learn about another culture and to take advantage of new opportunities. But it wasn't easy.

I had to remember countless names and faces, get used to a new system at school and church, and find new sports and clubs that fit in with my background. But it wasn't a big deal because I was excited about meeting people and seeing what Canada had to offer. My eagerness to get to know people here gave me the courage to explore how they live and forge my own paths.

It's always hard to fit in with already-established groups and create a new "home" from scratch. It definitely takes effort, but it's possible.

Like most things, establishing strong friendships takes time and initiative. Putting a smile on that beautiful face of yours and being a true friend to others instead of trying to satisfy your own desires is one way to establish lasting friendships. "Home" isn't a place; it's something the heart decides.