Homosexuality is more than sex: time to look beyond the labels and prejudice
- That gay men sleep around more than straight men is an accusation often made: being lustful isn’t a gay privilege
- We are your sons and daughters, your brothers and sisters; we are part of the family of humanity
Stuart Heaver writes kindly of the stigma facing LGBT youth who are coming to terms with their sexuality (“ Ignorance, Chinese values, religious dogma: LGBT Hong Kong students’ plight ”, November 29). In a world that has become increasingly tolerant of diversity, there are still ingrained prejudices and those who refuse to accept, usually because of ignorance or religious fervour.
Homosexuality is more than sex! It is wholly inaccurate to assume that gay men sleep around more than straight men, although that is an accusation often made: being lustful isn’t a gay privilege. Nor does one’s sexuality define one’s identity: I am gay; I ski, play golf and squash; I abhor the colour pink. I have straight friends who tremble at the thought of skiing, love disco and adore pink!
If being a butch lesbian is stereotypical, then perhaps my mother was a lesbian, for she certainly had a love of leather jackets and denim trousers.
Of course, the most damning accusation levelled by the ignorant against the LGBT community is that most child molesters are gay men: not true! Crime statistics have shown that there are more female than male victims of child molestation.
Furthermore, the LGBT community is about more than sexuality. We are teachers, doctors, business owners, pilots, taxi drivers; we are your sons and daughters, your brothers and sisters; we are part of the family of humanity. It is time to look beyond sexuality and understand the person.
Mark Peaker, The Peak