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The Naked Truth | Creepy behaviour on dates: how to spot it and things to avoid if you’re trying to impress

From being too pushy on a date to making weird or unsettling comments, creepiness means different things to different people. Here are some things to look out for and avoid

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There is no excuse for being creepy on a date. A relationship expert shares advice on how to spot (and avoid) creeps. Illustration: Marcelo Duhalde

Many of us have either experienced or heard of dating horror stories that involved creepy behaviour that would make anyone’s blood curdle.

Creepiness is often subjective, because what seems weird to one person may appear normal to another. But there are certain behaviours that are universally unacceptable in the dating game and none of us would want to be caught in those awkward situations.

According to Valentina Tudose, a relationship expert at Happy Ever After, a dating agency, creepiness is usually a combination of poor social skills, lack of respect for others’ space, and lack of self-awareness of what is said and done.

All these may seem innocuous at first glance, but if you are seen as creepy, that will almost certainly get you nowhere in the dating landscape.

Creepy behaviour is similar to a sense of entitlement, such as when men think they have the right to approach and push women regardless of any negative response.

There are ways to approach a potential date, and ways not to. Photo: Alamy
There are ways to approach a potential date, and ways not to. Photo: Alamy
Luisa Tam
Luisa Tam has been a journalist for more than 30 years. She has held a variety of roles during her career, including working as a producer for NDR German TV, a media campaigner with Greenpeace, and as the deputy managing editor of Eastern Express. She previously worked at the Post from 1988 to 1990, before rejoining in her current role in 2015.
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