The Naked Truth | Understanding the sex ‘tango’ could strengthen and save your relationship
Do opposites attract in bed? Understanding the ‘yin and yang’ of the bedroom is the key to a long-lasting relationship, writes Luisa Tam
When it comes to choosing a partner, are you naturally drawn to someone similar to you or the opposite? There is evidence to support both strategies.
Many of us pine for love that is extraordinary, exhilarating and even unpredictable at times. The theory of opposites attract seems to satisfy our hunger for a thrilling romance or even dangerous love. A seemingly impossible relationship can make us feel alive because we need to fight for it, and the journey to earning this kind of love is the ultimate romantic challenge.
Still, there are experts who vehemently dismiss the idea that opposites attract, claiming it is just a romantic myth. They insist that people are only drawn to those who hold similar views and have similar values to themselves, known as the “birds of a feather” theory. For many people, this comes down to convenience because change is difficult and often unlikely, so they prefer to settle down with partners who they feel are compatible.
While this may work for some, there are people who feel that these compatible relationships lack challenge. There are also relationship experts who will tell you that you should not settle for someone too compatible in terms of their personal traits and qualities.
Holistic love and sexuality coach Linda Moana, founder of Linda Moana Coaching, believes that sexual attraction is based on polarity, meaning two people who feel that inevitable magnetic pull and attraction have opposing sexual energies.