The Naked Truth | A virgin bride who’s still a virgin after eight years of marriage? Couples need a sex life – don’t let it die
- Sexual connection is an integral part of a marriage. If you’re no longer having sex, you’re holding each hostage and that’s cruel
- To rekindle the flames of passion, exchange romantic texts, surprise your partner, show them they’re always on your mind. Physical intimacy will follow
I know a couple who have been married for eight years and have never consummated their marriage; the wife even confided in me that she is still a virgin.
On the surface, they seem a happy, loving couple, who share a lot of common interests, but in reality, their sexless marriage is causing both physical and emotional strain, especially for the husband. This is because the wife is erotophobic, which means that she rejects all forms of physical intimacy.
How to deal with cheating and betrayal and get over the sex issue
A marriage devoid of sex is extremely rare. True, as a relationship matures, sex takes a back seat when other factors such as family, children, and career as well as loyalty, trust and common interests take the wheel. But a romantic relationship with no physical intimacy is not a real partnership at all.
Sexual connection is an integral part of a marriage and can sometimes be an emotional booster when other things in life go wrong. Even if two people are extremely close and love each other dearly, without sexual intimacy they would be better off as best friends.
Many couples do not tell each other what they truly desire sexually. It is hugely important to communicate your needs and wants, and even your deepest desires, no matter how awkward. Do not hold back; you must be honest with each other, because one of you may think a big difference in your sex drives is an issue.
