The Naked Truth | Why there’s no such thing as a failed relationship – when love dies it is a chance for a new beginning
- No relationship is a total loss; even the bad ones can help the heartbroken find the right person to share their life with
- Learn from the experience, and you can build a happy and healthy life with a new partner
A girlfriend told me her boyfriend disappeared not long after they decided to get married. At the time, she was living in Guangzhou, a city in southern China, and he was in another city in China.
He told her that he had divorced his wife so they could be together. But when it was time to plan their wedding day, he stopped visiting her and cut all communication – he did not even send a text message to break up with her. She later found out he was still married.
This happened seven years ago, but the friend told me it still hurts after all these years.
Gaining closure is crucial when a relationship ends because it allows you to bury it and leave it in the past. It is like giving yourself the opportunity to properly shut a door to write off an unhappy or even horrible chapter in your life so that you can have a new beginning without any emotional baggage. You cannot begin to heal if you are weighed down by guilt or deep-seeded resentment.
Finishing a relationship is never easy, and having a clean break-up is becoming ever harder as more people choose to break the news via text message, which makes it hard for the recipient to find the closure they need to heal and move on.
