The Naked TruthThis Valentine’s Day, knowing exactly what makes your partner feel special is the key
- Romance is not all about showering someone with gifts, unless that is the way you usually show affection in your relationship
- Making sure that what you do is meaningful is the most important thing of all
The annual day of love is just around the corner. Although some of you might have given up on celebrating Valentine’s Day because it has become too commercially driven, you can still make it fun for your partner.
First off, make sure the message you want to convey to your lover will make a personal impact, or at least leave something of a lasting impression. Telling someone you love them is not just about how romantic it sounds, but how authentic that message is. It does not always have to be expressed verbally, so think of a more creative method.
A good way to explore the most romantic way of expressing “I love you” is to first determine your partner’s preferred “love language”, according to Valentina Tudose, certified dating coach and relationship expert at Happy Ever After, a Hong Kong-based dating agency.
“When we understand how our partner needs to be shown love, we are able to communicate our love in a way that makes the most sense to them, verbally or otherwise,” Tudose says. “If your partner’s love language is ‘quality time’, for example, taking the day off work to spend time together – without kids, mobile phones and emails – can be a very powerful and effective way to show your love.
“If they like ‘words of affirmation’, a great way to start is to make a list of three or five things you think your partner does differently that you really like. For example: ‘I really like it that you are always taking time out of your day to send me a little message to make me laugh.’
