The Naked Truth | Stop making excuses for your partner’s actions. Fix things or move on
- ‘They’re just too stressed from work’, ‘They’re too busy’ – don’t fool yourself by thinking these things when your partner is not showing you love
- Relationships are like a set of scales; if one side is putting in a lot more than the other, it will tip and collapse
Sometimes we lie to ourselves because we do not want to face reality, or the truth is too unbearable. This happens a lot in relationships.
The way you lie and make excuses for your partner, and how often you do it, can be a sure sign that your relationship is sliding – or even that the end is near.
Relationship experts say it is quite common for people to make excuses for their significant others when things are not going well. But why do we do it?
There are many reasons. Some people avoid the truth for fear of rocking the boat. Breaking up to start a new life is too inconvenient for them, not to mention scary. Sometimes, we stick around in fear of becoming single again. Or maybe it is love, because you cannot see your life with someone else. Sometimes, you could be in denial, or lying is a defence mechanism to prevent the truth from hurting.
Whatever the reason, it often boils down to not wanting to end a relationship in which we have invested so much love and effort.