The Naked Truth | Why relationships happen for a reason, and how knowing it helps ease break-up heartache
- Luisa Tam believes there’s a reason behind every relationship and figuring it out can help handle them, even when they come to an end
- Sometimes people love each other but are fundamentally incompatible as a couple. They have to accept this, and learn a lesson from it
Some people come into our lives for a reason, whether it’s for a few weeks or a lifetime. I am a firm believer that there are people who come into our lives to teach us lessons.
Relationships are no different from our everyday encounters – they also happen for a reason. And once we have figured out what it is, we know how to handle them even when they come to an end.
The father of motivation, Wayne Dyer, famously said: “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
Many people cannot cope or accept a relationship coming to an end and try to hold on to it. What they are trying to hold on to is false hope and wishful thinking that a miracle may occur. Some cannot accept it is the end, especially when they still love their ex-partner.
If we follow Dyer’s thinking, we can look at it as a lesson rather than a defeat. Some people come into our lives for a short time to leave us a valuable experience that we wouldn’t have got had they stayed.