The Naked Truth | Killing the passion in a relationship starts outside the bedroom

When I think of passion killers, nothing beats the “absolutely enormous panties” uncovered by Hugh Grant’s flamboyant playboy character inBridget Jones Diary (2001) while he got down to some rompy-pompy with Bridget Jones.

Most of us would agree that this situation would best call for tiny underwear or seductive lingerie. But, as odd as it may sound, some men don’t find granny panties unattractive. It goes to show that different people are turned on – or off – by different things.

One man’s poison is another man’s medicine, as seen with Grant’s character Daniel Cleaver, who seemed to be fascinated by Jones’ tent-like underwear – and even greeted her undergarment with a teasingly warm “Hello Mummy”.

There’s no denying that it is fabulous if your lover adores you, even when you are in a pair of unsexy panties that are the size of an aircraft carrier. Still, you would not want to take any risk and neglect your sex appeal and, hence, affect the quality of your sex life. Relationships are mostly driven by passion in the beginning.

For any relationship to thrive we need to keep the spark alive or at least not do anything detrimental to kill the flame before its expiry date. We know full well passion gradually diminishes over time, but this doesn’t mean we should remain complacent.

Passion killers don’t just take place in the bedroom. There are a lot of unattractive behaviours that take place in everyday life that could extinguish the flame of passion. I talked to a few dissatisfied people who spilled the beans on their partners.