The Naked Truth | How to rekindle the flame in a sexless marriage: tips and tricks for a passionate relationship
- There are many reasons why a relationship can lack sexual intimacy, from stress to spending too much time together
- It is possible to fix this; a pleasure coach shares tips on how to get that fire burning once more
Sexless marriages are more common than you may think. Surveys done over the years have shown that 15 to 20 per cent of marriages are sex-free.
One definition of a non-sexual marriage is where sexual intimacy occurs fewer than 10 times a year. Sometimes, even happy, committed couples cease sexual intimacy after having been together for a while.
There are many reasons for this. One common cause is a drop in libido; its level fluctuates throughout our lives. A reduced sex drive can be brought on by a demanding career, stress, raising children, hormones, ailments that may affect stamina, and the general effects of ageing.
Tony has been married for more than 30 years but he feels no sexual attraction towards his wife, whom he loves dearly. He doesn’t want to leave her, neither does he want to have an affair, although he admits he has been tempted.
Long-term committed partners often seem to keep their relationships at what I call a “low-power subsistence level”, which is sufficient to keep the partnership alive but not vigorous enough to fire up the love or lust engine.