The Naked Truth | Conscious dating: how to find the perfect partner by using truthfulness, integrity and common sense
- If you communicate with honesty and clarity you’ll be more comfortable with yourself, and develop a greater connection with the person you are dating
- Be willing to listen, take responsibility for your own choices and trust in the process
Timing is everything either for a relationship to begin or go the distance with a chance to flourish and last. In the pursuit of love, and perhaps even great sex, the right timing puts us in the right space to meet, to court, to explore , to experience and consequently to be connected with someone.
When the timing is off and one or both parties are simply not ready to be in something deeper, no matter how hard you try, your efforts will be futile, not to mention heartbreaking and soul-crushing. The fundamental issue is to nurture a healthy relationship, we need to strike a balance between give and take, which means both sides have to contribute physically and emotionally in equal terms.
A lot of times, even when we know deep down the person we are with is incompatible, or may not even deserve our love, we tend to ignore the signs and carry on, hoping the problems will fade over time and everything will miraculously fall into place.
In fact, if you are unsure of your relationship, you need to make a conscious decision on the way forward, and whether it’s worth fixing or even repairable; if not, you need to call it quits.
According to Sonia Samtani, a Hong Kong-based clinical hypnotherapist and life coach, people are increasingly realising that the conventional way of dating does not necessarily produce promising results. “We are getting tired of wearing masks that hide our personalities to please others so as to avoid rejection.”